If you’re like many survivors of narcissistic abuse, the narcissist manipulated their way into taking charge of the money during your relationship, and now you’re dealing with the many consequences.

Survivors in our community often deal with the ongoing financial abuse, emotional, and legal consequences of their controlling ex-partner’s financial decisions.

If you’ve recently made the courageous decision to separate, many of the narcissist’s day-to-day patterns of abuse, drama, and conflict that kept you mentally and physically occupied have changed, as the narcissist is no longer in constant, physical close proximity to you.

It’s perfectly normal to feel like something is missing, or to feel a deep, aching loneliness. Many survivors note that it isn’t the relationship or the narcissist that they miss - but still, the loneliness persists.

There is a hearing tomorrow in Utah: a motion to recuse GAL Celia Ockey. Ockey has allegedly ignored the children's pleas and informed them that she will be representing what she thinks they would want if they had “mature reasoning.” 

Does your children come home with tangled hair, unbrushed teeth, and untended cuts or scrapes? Sadly, you’re not alone. In the OMB community, many protective parents find themselves at a loss, stuck between taking action or staying silent. One mother explained the dilemma succinctly: “The more I try to get their father to care for our child, the more neglectful and abusive he becomes. He is trying to hurt me by hurting our child.”

A federal lawsuit has been filed on behalf of Gwen and Grace Girard which names the defendants as Village of Glencoe, Illinois, Detective Ryan McEnerney, Maria Paredes, Vanessa Hammer, Hammer Serna & Quinn LLC, Gwenn Waldman, Breanna Traub, Phyllis Amabile, MD, Beerman LLP, John M. D'Arco, James M. Quigley, Enrico J. Mirabelli, Judge William S. Boyd, Judge Renee G. Goldfarb and Kathryn Ciesla.

Many survivors grieve the relationship with their ex in-laws because, just like the relationship with the narcissist, it was beautiful and loving for a time. In hindsight, we know it was never really love.

Alison Chao is not being heard in the family court system so we must amplify her voice.

My Narcissistic Ex Keeps Introducing Our Children to New Partners

Learn how to navigate the uncomfortable and sometimes downright scary dynamic when your ex brings new partners around your children.

My Ex Tells My Kids I’m Keeping Them From Him, What Should I Do?

Learn how to strategically battle the narcissist’s attempts to discredit and undermine

When The Narcissist Misses Visitation With Your Kids

What do you do when your narcissist cancels last-minute or simply doesn’t show up for his (or her) parenting time

Disappointment. Frustration. Self-blame. Sadness.

When your ex cancels or misses last-minute, it’s a good idea to have some tools in your arsenal, to be able to meet your children where they’re at, and help them cope with the difficult emotions they may experience.

Summer Sadness: When Your Kids Are With the Other Parent

Summertime is notoriously difficult for protective parents.

I can still remember the hollow, aching, fearful anxiety in my stomach when I’d hand the girls over to Seth. I am grateful that we did not have extended periods of time without contact like many of you are facing, but any deviation from the normal schedule is difficult.

A quick Google search will take you down rabbit holes and show you how narcissists want to be viewed by others or what patterns you may be able to predict if you are dealing with a narcissistic individual. But here at OMB, we know from experience what narcissistic, high conflict individuals truly crave.

If you’re preparing for mediation or court with a narcissistic individual, it’s important to be ready for the infamous “Narcissist Smirk.” What does it mean and how can you respond in a strategic way?

If you’ve been accused of “Parental Alienation,” know that you are NOT alone. Parental alienation accusations are not only predictable, they are one of the most common legal tactics employed by narcissists during child custody battles.

Divorcing a Narcissist? Father’s Day can be a triggering holiday for moms on the battlefield. Let’s make sure you’re dealing with Father’s Day in a way that will allow your children to lead, paint you in a positive light and aid you on your healing journey.

Usually I’m asked what it takes to win against the narcissist - but another important question is what it means to win against a narcissist.

Divorcing a narcissist is one of the most stressful experiences a person can endure. But there are powerful lessons to be learned in the midst of the chaos.

To some extent, it’s true that narcissists follow the same “playbook”, but when it comes to your child custody battle, it’s important to profile your specific narcissist.

The battlefield of divorce is hard enough - but when you’re divorcing a narcissist? You need all the armor you can get your hands on.

Whether you are dealing with the narcissist’s flying monkeys (those sent in to do the narcissist’s dirty work) or people who are judgmental or critical, I'd like to share some words of wisdom. I invite you to adopt my personal, two-tiered GAF System.