The anticipation of a high conflict divorce trial can be intense and anxiety-inducing. It’s important to learn techniques to stay grounded and calm before and during the trail. Centering yourself with grounding techniques in the midst of the narcissist’s chaos is essential in maintaining your physical health, mental stability, and emotional strength.

In the past, I’ve given a tremendous amount of grace to people who are still in the thick of things and not able to get involved in advocacy efforts. But things have reached a crisis level, and we truly need everyone. Even if you can only do one thing this week, please do it. In family court advocacy, every action counts.

Here are four urgent calls to action. Whether you're a survivor, an advocate, or someone who simply cares about protecting children, there's a place for you in this fight.

Narcissistic individuals have no qualms about lying under oath. Perjury means nothing to them because their reality is whatever serves their agenda in the moment. They will distort, manipulate, and fabricate without hesitation—all while looking the judge in the eye.

If you’ve ever sat in a courtroom and listened to the narcissist spin their web of lies, you know how infuriating and helpless it can feel. The injustice of it all is enough to make your blood boil. But reacting emotionally won’t help your case—it will only give them ammunition to use against you.

Across Georgia—and the nation—children are being court-ordered into dangerous, unregulated, and unproven programs under the false guise of “family reunification.” These programs have no basis in science, no government oversight, and no place in our justice system—yet they’re booming into a multi-million-dollar industry fueled by litigation, coercion, and court orders.

Georgia’s House Bill 253, also known as Ethan’s Law, could finally change that.

Reunification therapy, when imposed under coercive circumstances, is not a neutral intervention—it is a dangerous legal weapon that can strip protective parents of their rights and force children into harmful situations. Parents must be fully informed of the risks before consenting, and courts must be held accountable for the unchecked power they grant to reunification therapists.

Not the most fun, but definitely an important step - picking your clothing for your divorce or child custody battle court appearances. 

Of all the things to be stressing about - staying alive, keeping your children alive, getting documentation to your attorney, and surviving the narcissist’s relentless attacks - here’s a quick guide to choosing your wardrobe for in-person court appearances when facing a narcissist.

Finding, retaining, and working with a family law attorney is one of the most difficult and frustrating aspects of a high conflict divorce and/or custody battle. 

And once you’ve secured your attorney, it can feel like everything is crashing down if you begin to realize that they’re not all their Yelp reviews cracked them up to be.

Here are some of the most egregious red flags that every survivor should be aware of:
Remember that your attorney works for you.

Dear Governor Polis,

As a national advocate for family court reform, I have spent years bearing witness to the systemic failures within our nation’s family court system. The injustices I have encountered are deeply troubling, but what I am seeing unfold in Colorado’s 7th Judicial District is particularly egregious. As the Governor of Colorado, you hold a unique responsibility in this matter. Because judges in Colorado are appointed, the integrity of the judiciary ultimately rests in your hands. I implore you to act swiftly and decisively in the case of Christine McGinley, whose son remains in grave danger due to corruption and judicial misconduct in the court system.

Learn how reliance on a higher power can help you feel more grounded on the battlefield.

This post isn’t about religion, but it IS about spirituality.

Whether it’s faith in a God, the Universe, the power of humanity, or simply the peace of being in nature, many survivors find a higher level of personal peace and grounding when they invest time and emotional energy in their spirituality.

What began as a mother’s desperate fight to shield her child from domestic abuse, backed by court findings of neglect and repeated head and facial injuries, spiraled into a harrowing nightmare. The very institutions designed to protect children instead turned a blind eye, becoming complicit in the ongoing abuse.

Christine’s case was thoroughly investigated by ProPublica in 'Both Parents Agree: The Child is Being Harmed. Which One Will the Court Believe?’ which exposed the harrowing reality within Colorado’s 7th Judicial District. It stands as a damning indictment of a family court system that not only failed to protect Christine’s child but perpetuated the very danger she sought to escape. These failures led to the forced separation of a child from his protective mother, despite overwhelming findings of safety concerns with the father.

Your physical wellness is extremely important when you’re up against a narcissist in a child custody battle. 

A high conflict custody battle can be overwhelming in every single way - and often, our physical health takes a massive hit.

Prioritizing your physical wellness is an absolute must

I cannot recall all the words that were being said to me as I was instructed to return to the stand. I also cannot remember what it felt like as I felt the cuffs being locked around my wrist. I do remember the kindness and tenderness I felt from the bailiff as he looked into my eyes and the compassionate, gentle tone that he used with me as everything was happening so fast. It truly felt like I had been sucked into another dimension, where standard world values like justice and law did not exist. All I could think about in that moment was my sons and my family having to endure the unimaginable consequences of what was happening. This single day has left me questioning everything I ever believed before about fairness, justice, law and our rights as an American citizen.

We have an urgent call to action - for everyone worldwide.

In South Dakota, SB 111 passed Senate Judiciary today. It will be on the Senate floor tomorrow for a vote. This bill will open the floodgates for even more collusion and corruption within the alienation industry.

Many survivors of narcissistic abuse experience triggering emotions of Valentine’s Day as a result of the narcissist’s abusive behaviors.

Reclaiming this holiday as a day of self-care and self-compassion can be an empowering way to work toward healing.

This dangerous bill in Alabama creates a presumption that joint custody is in the best interest of the child. While joint custody can be beneficial in some cases, this presumption could endanger domestic abuse survivors and their children if courts do not properly account for the dynamics of abuse.

One of the most alarming aspects of HB229 is its implicit endorsement of "parental alienation," a widely discredited concept that is often weaponized against protective parents—particularly mothers—in custody disputes. The bill includes vague language about "parental alienation" and encourages courts to penalize parents who are seen as undermining a child's relationship with the other parent, even when the protective parent is acting in the child’s best interest by shielding them from abuse.

The Truth About False Allegations of Abuse in Family Court

For decades, a persistent myth has circulated in family courts: that women frequently fabricate allegations of domestic violence, child abuse, or sexual assault to gain an advantage in custody disputes. This narrative, often fueled by misinformation, has dangerous consequences, particularly for protective parents who are trying to shield their children from harm. The reality, backed by research, tells a different story.

In Part 2, our anonymous guest blogger—a therapist with over 20 years of experience working inside this troubling industry—reveals how reunification therapists systematically identify and financially profile their targets, ensuring they extract the maximum profit from custody disputes. Through coercion, court-ordered interventions, and the weaponization of pseudoscience, these practitioners transform family court into a lucrative enterprise at the expense of children's well-being. Featuring testimony from a retired family court judge and firsthand insights from a licensed professional, this installment exposes the devastating financial and psychological toll reunification therapy inflicts on families trapped in its grip.

A quick and effective “shut-up” method used by abusers is to smear the survivor by saying that they are speaking up because they “just want attention”.

What Kind of Attention Do Survivors of Abuse Want?

Usually, survivors just want to be left alone in peace.

But when survivors DO want attention, what kind of attention do they want?

Often, it’s media attention to draw eyes to their case in an effort to protect themselves and their children. When the public’s eyes are on your case, you have a greater sense of security and protection.

The United States has long prided itself on being the “land of the free,” a nation built on the ideals of liberty, justice, and equality for all. From its founding, America has positioned itself as a beacon of hope, where individuals have the right to pursue happiness, make their own choices, and live free from oppression. But when we look closer, especially at the treatment of women and children, we have to ask: Is this freedom truly for everyone, or only for those in power?

Across the country, many Americans, regardless of political affiliation, are growing fearful about government overreach and the erosion of personal freedoms. As a Victim and Child Safety Advocate, I work with women and children who face systemic challenges daily. The rights they have, the rights they are perceived to have, and the rights they are quietly losing paint a troubling picture.

There are multiple bills in the Indiana House and Senate that would be devastating for survivors and children, the most vulnerable members of our society.