My High Conflict Divorce Trial Is Coming Up - I’m Freaking Out!
When everything feels out of control, here’s what you can do to mentally prepare for your high conflict divorce trial.
The anticipation of a high conflict divorce trial can be intense and anxiety-inducing. It’s important to learn techniques to stay grounded and calm before and during the trail. Centering yourself with grounding techniques in the midst of the narcissist’s chaos is essential in maintaining your physical health, mental stability, and emotional strength.
Here are three simple techniques to practice as you prepare for your high conflict divorce trial.
Mindful Breathing
The practice of mindful breathing can help you stand in your truth and maintain your dignity no matter what is happening in the court room.
There are many different breathing techniques available with a quick search online, but one of our favorites at OMB is box breathing. Just draw a box with your hand; inhale - exhale - inhale - exhale - as you trace each line of the box.
Listen to Your Body’s Nutritional Needs
Our ability to listen and respond to our body’s hunger cues is severely interrupted and/or diminished when we experience trauma and trauma triggers.
As you prepare for trial, consider amping up your water intake and putting conscious effort into eating regular meals or snacks. Low blood sugar during trial is distracting and can amplify feelings of fear and panic. In the weeks, days, and hours before trial, remember to support your body with loving nutrition.
Rest & Sleep Are Priorities
While sleep may be scarce, rest can be a commitment you make to yourself as you emotionally prepare for trial.
Committing to a set number of hours of rest rather than sleep can take the pressure off if sleep disturbance is a reality for you right now.
Consider making an appointment with a healthcare provider to seek other tools to help you get some sleep in the days leading up to trial. There is no shame in asking for and using available support.
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The fine print: I am not qualified to give you (or anyone) legal advice, I recommend consulting with your attorney. Your attorney is your voice and your advocate in the family court system.
About me: My name is Tina Swithin. I am a survivor and I am a mom who "gets it.” While acting as my own attorney, I successfully protected my children in a system that is best described as “inhumane,” I am a blogger, a divorce coach and a fierce advocate for reform in the family court system. You can read more about me here.
