Divorcing a Narcissist: Seth is Back (Part 2- Narc Decoder)
by Tina Swithin(Continued from Part 1)My email to Seth after I got off the phone with Elena from the supervision company:
Seth- I received a call today from Elena regarding your request to set up supervised visits. Since it has been over a year since you've seen the girls, my attorney advised that the initial visits take place in a therapeutic environment. Moving forward, I did let Elena know that the visits were ordered to take place with ABC Supervision Services or with Jane Smith who is a local therapist. I think there was also a clause about a mutually agreed upon professional supervisor as well which I will look into further and verify. -Tina
After locating the court order and speaking to the therapist, I followed up with this:
Seth- To follow-up on my previous email, I did verify that the court order lists Jane Smith as an approved supervisor. Since Jane is a MFT, I would prefer that we utilize her services for re-unification therapy/supervised visits. I called and spoke to her this afternoon and here is the information to get started:Jane will speak to Piper's therapist and then she will meet with the girls and I. After that, she will schedule a time to meet with you individually and after that, she will meet with you and the girls together. Her rate is $100/hour and she can be reached at 805-555-5555. I will wait to receive confirmation from you before meeting with Jane however, I will sign the waiver with Piper's therapist at the next visit to get things started on our end. - Tina
Seth's response to me:
Tina- The (court) recommendation was for (NPD) Supervision Services and they never returned my emails and the voicemail doesn't accept messages for over a year. I called her multiple times last year when this first started and received 0 replies. I have been trying ever since April. I finally looked up the National Registry of approved Supervisors.Elena is an approved supervisor. There is no way I will go to someone you have a previous relationship with as you did with the woman form the Women's Shelter with whom you feigned an abuse issue 4+ years ago to gain her favor. I don't see anywhere where the person you are stating is recommended.Furthermore, the damage you have caused by using our divorce and the court system to profit from not one but two books now is unconscionable. I purposely removed myself from all of your world because I know you were using the court system to get chapters for your first book.Using child support money to follow me around with private investigators and going to the extreme of hiring young girls to follow me around where I live is disturbing on levels of stalking. I believe that you are not using the child support money in the proper manner to provide and care for the girls but rather pay private investigators to follow me when I am on my own time.Why are you still so obsessed with me 5 years after I divorced you? Let me live my own life and move on. Later, Seth
Don't fail me now, Narc Decoder! I carefully place Seth's email in the Narc Decoder and Snap! Crackle! Pop! Decoded!
Tina- It's been a full year since I've seen the girls and in that time, I've accidentally drunk-dialed the supervision service multiple times however, I have never once attempted to contact them while sober. Recently, my mom came to visit for the summer and put pressure on me to impress the family with my superb parenting skills. To make my mom happy I have finally decided to reach out and touch someone....you know, those people who were appointed to supervise me. Have I mentioned that my ego can't handle the thought of supervision but I am willing to do anything to please my mom? I probably won't really follow through -- I will take the first steps and then tell her how mean you are and that you are preventing me from seeing my possessions...errrr....I mean, MY daughters. I wrote in the email that I have been trying to contact the company since April but you and I both know that's B.S. I just like writing things like that in case the court gets a wild hair and decides to believe anything I say! It's worth a shot, right? Right? You know I'm right...I'm always right! Elena is an approved supervisor and since I spoke with her first, I am confident that I can sell her on how evil you are...and how I've been wronged. There is no way I will go to someone that you have a previous relationship with because you told them the truth and you know how much I hate being exposed. I don't see anywhere in the court docs that says the person you are suggested is recommended (I'm covering my eyes, haha!) because am choosing to twist reality to suite my agenda and needs. That shouldn't be news to you....I love twisting reality. Furthermore ("Furthermore" is one of my favorite words because it makes me sound in control and smart), the damage you have caused by telling the truth about our divorce to profit from not one but two books now is unconscionable (I should probably get a thesaurus....I know I use "unconscionable" in every email). I purposely removed myself from your world because the Commissioner and Evaluator saw through me and I could not handle it. Damn you for telling people the truth again! I hate the fact that you can survive financially without me. It goes against everything I've ever told you and pisses me off. I know that I recently got fired from yet another job and no longer pay child support. I know that my arrears is over $40,000 and I hate that you have become self-sufficient. I hate it. I hate it! I remember back in the good old days when my frequent terminations would make you cry and scramble to figure out how to buy groceries. Gosh, I sure miss those days! It infuriates me that you've used a private investigator to show my true colors. Being followed has made me so incredibly paranoid that I now think young girls are following me. They are everywhere! Blondes, brunettes, red heads! I also believe that you are not using the child support money that I no longer payyou to properly care for the girls. I firmly believe that you are obsessed with me -- you are, aren't you? Everyone else is....you are, right?! Let me live my own life, free of rules and court orders and we'll all be happy. PS Isn't it ironic that I spent so many years correcting your grammar and mine is horrendous? Let me figure out a way to blame you for my grammatical errors and I will get back to you. I'm sure your stupidity rubbed off on me during our marriage. -Seth
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