When Desperation and Delusion Clouds Common Sense
This one can also be labeled, "You Can't Make This Stuff Up if you Tried."
In 2006, Seth and I bought a 30' Airstream trailer...that we could not afford. I was still intermittently drinking the kool-aid, and at that point in time, I believed we could afford it. Seth convinced me that it was a smart decision because we were starting businesses in new markets and needed to travel. In addition, it would make things easier for me to camp with a small child during his triathlon season. He also said it was a business write-off.
Fast forward through another pregnancy, another financial crisis, losing our home to our business partners, and, our business partners telling Seth to take a flying leap as they cut their losses and walked away from his insanity. Then came the IRS swooping in in 2008 and freezing our lives because Seth ignored their notices for over a year. Cars began to get repossessed and creditors were blowing up our phones. Even more humiliating, we lived in a very prestigious gated community so in order for repossession agents to seize our cars, they had to share the juicy details with the guards at the front gate. Seth's financial charades finally caught up with him and I only knew ten percent of our reality.
I finally talked Seth into returning our Airstream trailer to the bank. One evening, we hitched it to the back of his truck and he (literally) drove into the sunset with the girls and I waiving to him as he pulled away. He was going to drop it off outside of the sales lot where it was purchased, leave the key on the front tire and notify the bank where they would be able find it. I was proud of Seth who vacillated between financial reality and delusions. His willingness to give the trailer back to the bank showed me that he may actually be taking things seriously. I felt a huge sense of relief.
Fast forward six months, we were forced to file bankruptcy. As things began to unravel, I discovered the magnitude of Seth's debts and deceptions. Our bankruptcy was the last thing we did together as a married couple.
On August 9, 2016, shortly after Seth's brother was arrested, one of his neighbor's reached out to me and disclosed that Seth and his brother, Jason, had been hiding the Airstream trailer on a neighboring property for the past eight years. Not only was he hiding it from me, he was hiding it from the bank (last payment had been made in 2008), from the bankruptcy court and, from family court. He never listed it as an asset during the bankruptcy or the divorce. I was in shock. We also discovered that Seth's pedophile brother had lived in the Airstream multiple times over the years.
My head was spinning for several reasons. I contacted the person who was storing the trailer and directed my husband, Glenn, to retrieve it from her property. He towed it to an off-site location and I notified law enforcement that we were in possession of the trailer and that we wanted it searched to ensure that there was no evidence related to Seth's brother's criminal case. A search warrant was obtained, law enforcement entered the trailer and no evidence was found. From there, Glenn found a repossession agent who stated that the trailer had been on his "watch list" for quite some time. We turned it over to the repossession man and, a recent search through my PI revealed that it had been purchased by a man in Southern California.
Why am I sharing all of this and what does it have to do with divorcing a narcissist or sociopath? Don't worry, I'm getting there.
A Cluster B individual (narcissist, antisocial/sociopath) thrives on winning and control. We are nearing the final stages of a very long, ten-year battle and Seth is losing his grip. My husband's petition to terminate Seth's parental rights was the final straw and likely, put Seth over the edge. So what is Seth to do? Sue my husband, Glenn.
Yes, you read that right.
His next act of revenge involves suing Glenn in small claims court for the Airstream trailer.
Let me break this down for those scratching their heads:
- The Airstream was essentially stolen property for over eight years as Seth tried to hide it from the bank.
- This is actually now a family court matter according to my attorney as Seth violated his fiduciary duty to make financial disclosures during the dissolution proceedings (IN RE: the MARRIAGE OF Elena and Aaron FELDMAN) which opens him up to sanctions and attorney fees.
- Seth may now open himself up to criminal proceedings in bankruptcy court for fraud and for intentionally concealing and failing to disclose this property.
Glenn will be in court on July 26th to fight this frivolous, vindictive motion that has no business being in small claims court in the first place as the value of the property is $35,000 and exceeds what the court is capable of ruling on.
Chalk this one up to a narcissist's desperation and delusion clouding his common sense which opens him up to additional courts of law, legal issues, and monetary sanctions.