I’m Pregnant and I Think the Father is a Narcissist: Help!
Bringing a child into the world should be a beautiful experience - but if you’re carrying the baby of a narcissist, it’s time to start safety planning.
Narcissistic abusers seek power and control over victims in order to maintain their self-imposed status as “center of the universe.”
A partner’s pregnancy naturally pushes the narcissist out of the center as:
The expecting mother prepares for the new baby;
Extended family prepares and celebrates;
Friends, family, neighbors, work colleagues and others focus conversation topics on the expectant mother, her pregnancy, and the baby;
Doctors and health professionals focus on the pregnant partner rather than the narcissist;
Gifts or parties are centered around the pregnant partner and new baby.
Pregnancy & Narcissism
The less control the narcissist feels they have, the harder they’ll try to maintain it. Narcissists with pregnant partners may severely emotionally abuse their victims, use gaslighting, covert physical violence, sexual coercion, and other forms of abuse to control and intimidate.
Carrying a child is never easy - but it can feel overwhelming when you’re also trying to keep your head above the waters of narcissistic toxicity and abuse.
I’m Pregnant & I Feel Stuck - What Should I Do?
If you’re pregnant and in an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissistic individual, it’s time to start safety planning. Are you able to leave? If so, make a careful plan for your exit. Build up your support team. Begin learning as much as you can about child custody laws in your area now - because unfortunately, post-separation abuse is all-too real and the family court system is a playground for narcissistic individuals.
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The fine print: I am not qualified to give you (or anyone) legal advice, I recommend consulting with your attorney. Your attorney is your voice and your advocate in the family court system.
About me: My name is Tina Swithin. I am a survivor and I am a mom who "gets it.” While acting as my own attorney, I successfully protected my children in a system that is best described as “inhumane,” I am a blogger, a divorce coach and a fierce advocate for reform in the family court system. You can read more about me here.
