Divorcing a Narcissist: Deliver My Daughters?
Our court order is simple: the X must notify us 24-hours prior to a visit if he wishes to exercise his rights to visitation. Lately, he is pushing the limits. There is a reason for the order: he isn't dependable. If we don't hear from him 24-hours prior then we are free to go on with our weekend. His visitation begins on Saturday morning at 11am and he is supposed to email me on Friday morning.Two weeks ago he pushed the limits and didn't email until 6:30pm that evening. I tried to communicate with him last Wednesday about the weekend as I had a funeral to attend and could not risk playing his games. He didn't respond to my email nor did he notify me on Friday morning as ordered by the court. I waited until after 1pm on Friday and then emailed the girls' attorney and cc'd my X in order to notify them that the visit was cancelled. At 2:30pm the attacking emails and phone (text) communication began. Snippets of the emails:I notified you in the past weekends, Wednesday and Thursday and you refused to deliver my daughters. It's not realistic to email you at 11 am on the dime, exactly 24 hours before. I drove 220 miles to get here to see my daughters. You're a vindictive, hate-filled woman who is using our daughters as pawns to get back at me. This is unacceptable and you are punishing our daughters in your pursuit to selfishly have the Girls 100 percent of the time.Snippets of the text messages: What's it like to be full of hatred and negative energy aging your mind and outward appearance. I don't even look at your blog but I hear its a Narcissistic statement of how great you think you are. You're a terrible mother because you keep your children from a normal, healthy relationship with their father. You are selfish, full of hate and you continuously have lied to (the) Commissioner verbally and in writing. Your time will come Tina for karma and justice. Couple of things to note here:1. "You refused to deliver my daughters" --- deliver my daughters? They aren't packages from UPS nor do I drive a delivery truck. They are little girls. Not possessions. His emails often reference "delivering his daughters" and it makes me sick to my stomach because the "Narc Decoder" starts flashing bright lights that say, "Possessions!"2. What is it with X's and the threat of Karma? For some reason, I feel that Karma is actually on my side in this situation and most others in my life. Ironic that he is threatening me with Karma.3. I find it interesting that he likes to attack my looks given that my self esteem is finally repaired after spending 10 years with him and three years recovering. Sorry but those attacks don't work on me anymore. Try again.4. I've lied to the Commissioner? Projection, anyone?"Like" One Mom's Battle on Facebook or Follow me on Twitter @onemomsbattle.com