Yellow Rock: Communicating with a Narcissist in a Child Custody Situation
I am a HUGE proponent of gray rock communication when you are dealing with a narcissist, sociopath or other Cluster B disordered individual AND there are no children involved. Unfortunately, if your case is in the family court system, going "gray rock" with your communication can have negative consequences for you.
I know, I know. You are ready to throw gray rocks at me right now. It goes against everything we learn when dealing with a high-conflict individual but please hear me out. Gray rock is life-changing when divorcing a narcissist because it makes them lose interest in you. When the courts expect you to happily co-parent and sing Kumbaya together on Sunday nights, gray rock can hurt you significantly because to the outside observer, you appear cold and rigid. I recommend a modified version of gray rock which I have titled, "yellow rock." You still get to be a boring GRAY rock but, you sprinkle it with polite, common courtesy. Everything you write is for the court -- NOT for your ex.
Lots of love, Tina <3