Why is a Narcissist like a Chocolate Chip Cookie?

Narcissists make people think that they are so special.  They are so unique.  They are better than everyone.  For so many years, I believed that my X husband was everything he claimed to be.  I believed that his family was exceptional.  He put me down in a passive aggressive way and over time, I started to believe that I was all of the things he said I was: unattractive, unworthy, unintelligent and unloved.  He accomplished what he needed to do in order to survive: he put himself on a pedestal and I lived beneath him-- looking up at all times.As time goes on, you discover that they are not unique—it’s actually quite the opposite.  They are all the same.  There are slight variations but I equate it to baking chocolate chip cookies.  There are variations in the shapes and sizes along with the placement of the chocolate chips but every cookie has the same ingredients.  When you are dealing with a batch of cookies, all mixed in the same bowl using the same ingredients, there is nothing unique about them.I found a quote in a Time Magazine article about Narcissism where Jeffrey Kluger wrote the following, “It’s a deep and all but certain truth about narcissistic personalities that to meet them is to love them, but to know them well is to find them unbearable”.  So very, very true.###One Mom's Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.History of One Mom's Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother, (Tina Swithin), navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth. Tina's battle spanned from 2009 - 2014 during which time she acted as her own attorney. Ultimately, Tina was successful in protecting her daughters and her family has enjoyed complete peace since October 2014 when a Family Court commissioner called her ex-husband a "sociopath" and revoked his parenting time in a final custody order.Tina Swithin: Divorcing a narcissist? Tina Swithin's books are available online at Amazon (print, Kindle or audio format). Each year, Tina offers life-changing weekends of camaraderie and healing at the Lemonade Power Retreat.  Tina also offers one-on-one coaching services and a private, secure forum called, The Lemonade Club, for those enduring high-conflict custody battles. [wp_ad_camp_1]