Divorcing a Narcissist: Waiting on A Judgement
I sit here waiting on a Judgement and I am thankful for a really busy work day (and week) to keep me distracted.My X admitted to Minor's Counsel that he has taken the girls' cell phone during visits. He admitted to doing this once and when this statement is processed in the Narc Decoder, it means once every singe visit. I received a call from Minor's Counsel on Friday night and he said that my X's excuse from taking the cell phone from the girls was a result of my constant interference in his parenting time. According to him, I am texting or calling constantly during the visits.I had a simple solution: I would do actual screen prints of every time my daughter used her phone dating back to January 2012. I logged onto the phone website and was delighted to discover that the texts and phone calls can be broken down for easy reading and printing- very user friendly. I took all of the records and the actual phone to the attorney's office and dropped them off on Monday morning.Upon review of the attorney's summary of the current issues this morning, here is what he stated, "The records provided by (Tina) are not consistent, with the (X's) recitation of the number of contacts between the children and their mother, during visits". In other words: He is lying. Again. Shocking. I know.Summary of past four months of these "constant" interruptions of his parenting time:
June 2012: One call and one text from my daughter. One text reply from me.
July 2012: Zero phone calls from either of us. Two texts from my daughter- one telling me how many books she had read and another saying they were going to a park.
August 2012: One call that my daughter made at her father's request to see if they could stay late at a party.
September 2012: No phone calls- no text messages. At all.
Minor's counsel went on to suggest that a new Custody Evaluation is probably in order. Cheers to that!Our last parenting evaluation was done in the beginning of 2010. I didn't know what I was dealing with and it was my word against his. Now there are mountains of evidence, declarations, affidavits and I know exactly what I am dealing with. There are also two new alcohol offenses and more lies than I can count. There are two child welfare reports. The most important part: the girls are old enough to speak up and voice their opinions, fears and desires.Fingers crossed. Still waiting on the Commissioner's final decision.###One Mom's Battle: Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), Custody Evaluators, therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children.History of One Mom's Battle: In 2009, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother, (Tina Swithin), navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth. Tina's battle spanned from 2009 - 2014 during which time she acted as her own attorney. Ultimately, Tina was successful in protecting her daughters and her family has enjoyed complete peace since October 2014 when a Family Court commissioner called her ex-husband a "sociopath" and revoked his parenting time in a final custody order.Tina Swithin: Divorcing a narcissist? Tina Swithin's books are available online at Amazon (print, Kindle or audio format). Each year, Tina offers life-changing weekends of camaraderie and healing at the Lemonade Power Retreat. Tina also offers one-on-one coaching services and a private, secure forum called, The Lemonade Club, for those enduring high-conflict custody battles. [wp_ad_camp_1]