Divorcing a Narcissist: The Cottage and Re-Branding
The x did not follow court orders on Thursday/Friday in terms of notification so I cancelled his Saturday visit. I waited until 2pm and then we went forward with our weekend plans but accepted his notification for Sunday's visit. He didn't call the police (or the Ninja Turtles) as I suspected but he sent the normal Narcissistic email:Tina- The court order is within 24 hours. Not at 10:59 AM. The court order is to notify you by email. This is an email exchange on gmail acceptable by the court and has been since the beginning. On the date below I emailed you 2 days before on Thursday and you refused to follow the court order and bring my daughters to me on Saturday.Bring my daughters today please October 6th and tomorrow October 7th. Again, I will accommodate you and meet you at (xyz location) at 11 AM. I accommodated you three weeks ago by meeting at Starbucks but that is against the court order. The Court Order is you drop the girls off at (his parent's home) every 1st, 3rd and 5th Saturday and Sunday. I have my daughters less than 12 hours every other week.That's virtually no time. You had me in court 4 weeks in a row now. I had two days of very intense work to make up for missing so much work. My Friday morning workobligations did not allow me to email at 10:59 AM. You need to stop being so vengeful and realize the children, need both their biological Father, not your fiance as their father. I will be filing motions at this point to correct the problems you continue to create.The XMy Response:x: I waited well past the time yesterday for notification. I do not need to be notified at exactly 10:59am but anytime Friday morning is fine. 5am, 6am -- before your work day starts is also an option. There is a court order in place and cancelled visits are easily prevented by following the order as it is written. We will plan to see you tomorrow (Sunday) at 11am. Thank you- TinaSunday's Visit:I work in Marketing and re-branding is something that is usually reserved for businesses. This weekend I discovered that it is also used for Narcissists who are trying to fool people. My daughters came home and said that Daddy is going to rent a little cottage for them to stay in on the weekends. Very interesting, I thought to myself. The timing is uncanny given the fact that I am going to press for a new parenting evaluation at our upcoming court date and he knows that. During our last evaluation in 2010, he set up an apartment specifically for the evaluation. The x’s landlord (a year after the fact) admitted to me that it was all a front and went on to say that my x was a psychopath who lured young women to the apartment, got them drunk and took advantage of them.Now he is planning to set up another false front since there is another evaluation looming. The girls went onto say that the cottage is actually in the downstairs area of his family’s home. Now I am thoroughly confused but I let them keep talking about this “cottage”. Basically, he is trying to get them excited about “daddy’s new cottage” which is essentially the same place they’ve been going for the past year. It's just the basement or the downstairs area. It’s the same place where his father, older brother, brother's wife (that he purchased in Thailand) and son reside. This is the home belonging to the brother who I've fought so hard to protect my children from. It’s being re-branded for the parenting evaluation.Just when I think that I can't be shocked anymore. My x now rents a "basement cottage".
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