Divorcing a Narcissist: Tales of a Sick and Twisted Mind

Visits have been infrequent lately (thank you, God) for a variety of reasons.Seth cancelled his March 30/31st visit with an email that stated,  "Tina, Most regrettably, I exceeded my available funds driving down the last two weekends in a row. The costs average $200-300 depending on where we go to get food."Stepping back into reality for a moment: I sent them food on their last visit because he never has food in his "home." I packed lunches and snacks.  Prior to that visit, he took them to Taco Bell.  I think that his bill from the Downtown bar is becoming blurred with his visitation expenses.  Not sure how he is spending $200-300 per weekend when he only has them  from 11am to 5pm and I feed them both breakfast and dinner?  Anyway....His next visitation was April 13th and 14th which is when I discovered that Gazelle #2 was back in the picture.  In a way, it was a welcomed relief as I know the girls are safer.  One would think that anyway. Not when you are dealing with a sick and twisted mind. Within minutes of getting into our car on Sunday, the girls proceeded to tell Glenn and I that while Gazelle #2 (Wendy) stepped out of the room to powder her nose, Seth threatened my youngest daughter, Sarah.  He told her that if she didn't  get up and start cleaning that he would take her outside and put her in the doghouse.  He knows that she is scared of his brother's dogs-- and most dogs for that manner.Most parents have had a "regrettable" moment where something is said in a moment of anger.  These are not things said in a moment of anger.  These are calculated, sadistic and planned things-- these are things done to evoke fear. My youngest daughter seems to be his target for these threats while my oldest daughter receives most of his wrist squeezing and slapping. These recent events leave me thankful that our parenting evaluation is still in progress.He just cancelled his next visitation during the first weekend in May.  His excuse: he is attending a wedding.  The excuse then changed to him being in the wedding.  Who knows what the real reason is but I am happy to have a peaceful weekend knowing my daughters won't be threatened or bullied.“Like” One Mom’s Battle on Facebook or “follow” on Twitter Click the link to purchase Tina’s new book, “Divorcing a Narcissist- One Mom’s Battle.”  You will find insight, red flag reflections and strategies on how to survive (and thrive!) while divorcing of co-parenting with a narcissist. Tired of panicking at the site of a new email from the narcissist in your inbox? Learn how to decode the emails and see them for what they are. You will learn to forgive yourself and you will begin to heal.