My name is Tina Swithin and I’ve spent almost four years acting as my own attorney in a horrific divorce and custody battle with someone whom I believe falls into the Cluster B Personality Disorders. Obviously, I am not a therapist. Regardless of the label, I am fighting to protect my children from someone who lacks empathy and remorse, has an extreme sense of entitlement and a desire to win that supersedes what is in the best interest of our children.
Becoming educated on this cluster of personality disorders has been the biggest light bulb moment of my life. Everything that had happened over the past ten years now makes complete sense. The knowledge that I have gained is empowering- this knowledge allowed me to shift from victim to survivor. Divorcing a Narcissist is the single most difficult thing that I’ve done and I don’t wish this roller coaster ride on anyone. No matter where you are in this journey, I am thankful that we have connected as I believe there is power in numbers.
This is a story about not giving up. This is a lesson about believing in yourself and what you can accomplish. This is about my experience in the Family Court System and the frustrations that come as a result of this broken system. I had to leave my comfort zone and risk people not liking me. This isn’t about mother’s rights or father’s rights. It’s about a child’s right to be happy, safe and loved. - In gratitude, xoxo Tina Swithin
New Book! “Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle”
In Tina’s new book, “Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle“, you will find insight, red flag reflections and strategies on how to survive (and thrive) while divorcing a narcissist or co-parenting with a narcissist. Tired of panicking at the site of a new email from the narcissist in your inbox? Learn how to decode the emails and see them for what they are. You will learn to forgive yourself and to begin the healing process.
Book Review: by Alison L. Patton, Esq., Attorney and Mediator, Author of the Lemonade Divorce, contributor to Huffington Post:
This is an important book with a compelling personal story by Tina Swithin. A must-read for anyone dealing with a narcissistic personality in a love relationship or in a divorce. As a family law attorney, I have observed this dynamic first-hand in divorce and custody cases. The narcissist spouse thrives on high conflict and will play out this dysfunction both inside and outside the legal system for years. These cases are pervasive, insidious and difficult for everyone the spouse, the children, the lawyers, the court staff, the judge, and even the mental health professionals who are brought in to help. Because of the nature of the personality disorder, the narcissist can appear perfectly normal and be hard to identify and diagnose.
Tina Swithin is living testimony that it is possible to meet this dysfunction head-on and to take proactive legal and practical measures to protect the children and bring the truth to light. What I found most compelling about Tina s story is that she has not just survived these battles but has grown personally and spiritually from her struggle. Her book is as much about her emotional/mental health journey as it is about her legal saga. Through her writing, blog and public education campaign, Tina reaches out to individuals and professionals dealing with this disorder. Her story provides valuable information as well as inspiration and hope. ###
One Mom’s Battle: Blog Navigation (categories to your right):
1. Tina’s Story:
2. “An Uphill Battle” – Guest Blogger
3. “Claire” –Guest Blogger
4. “Olivia” –Guest Blogger
5. “A Whale of a Tale” –Guest Blogger
6. “A Father’s Silent Scream” –Guest Blogger
7. “Other Faces” of One Mom’s Battle
8. One Mom’s Battle in the News
9. General Information on Narcissism
One Mom’s Battle has been featured in:
- The Huffington Post: Forgiveness is Overrated: Accepting the Narcissist (Jan. 2013) by Tina Swithin
- The Huffington Post- Communicating with a Narcissist: Using the Narc Decoder (Dec. 2012) by Tina Swithin.
- Washington Times- Domestic Violence Victims are Speaking Out, Handing out a Dose of Reality (Dec. 2012) by Paula Carrasquillo
- Washington Times- Narcissistic Personality Disorder is not Harmless Behavior (Nov. 2012) by Paula Carrasquillo
- Examiner.com- Why High-Conflict Divorces Can Lead to Dating Problems (Sept. 2012) by Sheila Szabo
- Washington Times- Can Facebook Help us Heal (Sept. 2012) by Paula Carrasquillo
- Huffington Post- What Smart Women Do After Divorce (Mar. 2012) by Alison Patton
- Yahoo- Divorcing the Narcissist- What You Need to Know (Sept. 2012) by SoCalResident
- About.com- Divorce Support Expert – (2011)
Click the link to purchase Tina’s new book, “Divorcing a Narcissist- One Mom’s Battle.” You will find insight, red flag reflections, tips and strategies on how to survive (and thrive!) while divorcing of co-parenting with a narcissist. Tired of panicking at the site of a new email from the narcissist in your inbox? Learn how to decode the emails and see them for what they are. You will learn to forgive yourself and you will begin to heal. You can also purchase “Tips by Tina” and receive them by email within 24 hours.