History of One Mom’s Battle (OMB):
In 2011, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother (Tina Swithin) navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth with over 100-chapters in five different countries. In 2014, One Mom’s Battle achieved non-profit status which will allow the group to take their mission to the next level.
Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children. The second portion of the OMB mission is to provide support, education and guidance to parents who are dedicated to protecting their child(ren) from a personality disordered individual. Initially, this is happening on our OMB Facebook page which is a public community of over 15,000 men and women who have been affected by the system. This page is not a private group because we at OMB feel that this issue has been kept private for far too long.
If your group supports both men and women, why is it called, “One Mom’s Battle”?
When Tina Swithin started her blog and Facebook page, she never imagine that others would be interested in her journey. Her blog began so her friends and family members could follow her plight through the Family Court System. She had no idea that so many other people dealt with Cluster B personality disorders resulting in a high conflict divorce, and that her blog and page would become a primary resource for so many people. She was truly just documenting her journey as a mother fighting to protect her children. The symbol of One Mom’s Battle is important to her because it was personal and individual when she felt very alone – similar to David battling Goliath. Since then, it has morphed into something much, much broader and is helping to make systematic changes in court systems all over the U.S. and other countries. The Administrators at OMB try their very best to be gender inclusive, welcoming men just as much as women in their battles with Cluster B individuals. Our focus is firmly upon protecting CHILDREN, not protecting mothers and not protecting fathers. We count on everyone in our “village” to notify us if a comment or thread is unnecessarily skeptical or attacking. We want everyone dealing with a Cluster B parent to experience this as a safe place for support and guidance. While this began as one mother’s battle, it has turned into a village of education, love and support. We are all in this battle together.
What is a Cluster B Personality Disorder?
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) is used by clinicians for the diagnosis of mental disorders. Cluster B contains 4 personality disorders. One of them is not pertinent to OMB (histrionic) but the other three are and one or a mixture of them is what most people with a “narcissistic” ex actually have. The three disorders that we commonly deal with are: Borderline Personality Disorder much more common with females than with males, Narcissistic and Antisocial Personality Disorder, much more common in males than in females. With each of these three Cluster B disorders, there is a pronounced lack of empathy, repeated testing of laws, rules, and personal boundaries, much manipulation to meet their own needs which can fluctuate with their mood states, and sometimes fraud and other criminal activities. There is often high comorbidity with substance abuse and other forms of mental disorders.
The OMB Blog:
To read Tina’s story, click here
When Tina’s battle came to an end in 2013, she held a contest to find the “New Face of One Mom’s Battle” and out of numerous applicants, Tina chose an inspirational woman by the name of Lucy K. Wright to share her story with the world. Follow Lucy’s journey growing up with a narcissistic father through her battle in the court system in an effort to protect her children from her narcissistic (ex) husband. To read Lucy’s story, click here.
“My mission at One Mom’s Battle is fueled by the vulnerable children who are deserving of a normal, healthy childhood. The courts need to stop focusing on Mother’s Rights and Father’s Rights – a parent should not have rights simply because they have the ability to procreate. That is ludicrous and barbaric. A child’s right to be safe, loved and nurtured should supersede the rights of their parents. The Family Court System needs a complete overhaul. It should not be this difficult to protect a child. The Family Court System is failing our children and our families.” -Tina Swithin, OMB Board President
Seeking insight, encouragement and advice while divorcing a narcissist? Tina Swithin’s books, “Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle” and her new book “Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield” are available on Amazon or through Barnes & Noble. Learn how to set boundaries, navigate your way through the divorce and see the narcissist for who he/she really is. You will learn to forgive yourself and you will begin to heal.