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Peter Cook and Suzanne Shaw Divorce: Cheating Again

Peter Cook and Suzanne Shaw Divorce: Cheating Again

peterby Tina Swithin

This one can be labeled  under, “We all saw it coming” but, I will be honest in saying that the marriage of Peter Cook and Suzanne Shaw Cook lasted much longer than I expected. Following a case like this can be somewhat boring because all narcissists use the same playbook (yaaawnnnn). In the beginning of the case, Peter took responsibility for his actions in a way that only narcissists do: I’m sorry but it was all Christie’s fault that I strayed. A half-ass apology and then victim blaming. Typical.

Peter then quickly moved on to Suzanne Shaw because, as we all know, they can’t be without Narcissistic Supply for very long. Suzanne quickly jumped on the “bash Christie” bandwagon and became Peter’s prized minion carrying out his dirty work and bashing and blaming Christie at every opportunity. The goal for Peter was to stay in the spotlight while carrying out his main agenda: hurting the woman who first saw through  him.  In predictable narcissistic fashion, Peter holds Christie responsible for the public lashing he took when it was discovered that he had carried on a two year affair with Diana Bianchi. This two-year affair was discovered when Ms. Bianchi was 17-years old. I will let you do the math on her age when the affair began.

Do I blame Suzanne Shaw? I don’t blame her because I have been charmed by an individual like Peter Cook and have since dedicated my life to raising awareness on the topic of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Peter Cook was diagnosed by a court appointed psychiatrist as an “insatiable narcissist” with a porn habit costing thousands of dollars per month. Described in today’s NY Post article as “a cheater” and a “creep” along with words like “narcissist” and “desperate,” I’m not usually one to say, “I told you so” but in this situation, we all knew it was a matter of time….

This current issue with Peter Cook goes to show the depths of his illness and evil. As early as last week, he was still groveling to the National Enquirer about Christie Brinkley because at this point, that is the only media outlet who will listen to his rants and all the while, his marriage secretly ended back in February according to media reports. This man is so hell-bent on trying to destroy Christie Brinkley’s reputation and so arrogant that he hoped that no one would pick up on the fact that he continued to jump from one woman to another while sporting a wedding ring. Peter Cook is the definition of vile.

I hope this serves as a teachable moment for all women dating. Pay attention to internal red flags when dating and pay attention to external red flags – such as the words and experiences of others who have walked before you. If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck….it might just be a duck. If it sleeps in other women’s beds like a narcissist (while married) and talks (lies, projects and re-creates reality) like a narcissist….it might just be a narcissist.

It will be interesting to see if we hear more from Suzanne Shaw, my guess based on the statement by Peter’s attorney leads me to believe that Suzanne has been hushed with a narcissist’s most prized possession: money.

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Divorcing a Narcissist: Peter Cook and Suzanne Shaw

Divorcing a Narcissist: Peter Cook and Suzanne Shaw

peterby Tina Swithin

I remember how “special” that a Narcissist can make you feel.  I remember feeling like the most beautiful girl in the world during our courtship and by the end of our marriage, I could barely look at myself in the mirror.  He pointed out my every flaw –sometimes in a very passive aggressive way and sometimes in a direct and down-right mean way.

In the beginning, you feel so special and will do anything for these men.  Case in point: Suzanne Shaw.  Ms. Shaw sent me two messages this week through my blog defending Peter Cook with every ounce of her being.  Suzanne Shaw went so far as to say that Peter Cook was NOT a Narcissist and that he only has narcissistic tenancies.  Yes, she actually said that.  Maybe Suzanne missed the Today Show interview where Peter Cook actually admits that being a Narcissist makes him a better dad. In her message to me, Suzanne said, “You are so blind” and then went onto say that she, “feels sorry for me”.

The court-appointed psychiatrist, Dr. Stephen Herman, said in the court proceeding, that Peter Cook is an “insatiable narcissist”.  Dr. Herman recommended that Brinkley get full custody of the kids because Cook is a narcissist who has demonstrated “poor judgment.”  He then went on to cite Cook’s 35 sexual partners, a two-hour-a-day internet porn habit and his “impulsive, self-destructive, possibly compulsive” affair with a teenager.

Marriage material?  Hmm….

The other thing that never ceases to amaze me is the way that all Narcissists seem to come from the same mold.  There are slight variations almost like you would find with a batch of cookies but basically, there are common threads that I find with every woman that I speak to.  Over the past six months, I can’t count the number of times someone has said, “I feel like I just read my life story when I found your blog“. It’s the same cycle each time. They just insert a new woman and press “repeat”.  For now, Suzanne is feeding Peter’s narcissistic supply by believing that he is the victim and that she is protecting his image at every turn.  She feels special because he is making her feel that way.  She believes his stories and has bought into each one of them.

I harbor no hard feelings towards Suzanne.  God knows I have been in her shoes and defended my X at any mention of his wrongdoing.  As I’ve said before, I am thankful that Suzanne has many resources available to her when she needs them.  It is a matter of time before the tides will turn and she will understand Narcissistic Personality Disorder at a very intimate level. When that time comes, Suzanne, I can be reached at tina@onemomsbattle.com.

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Divorcing a Narcissist: Adult Bullying

Divorcing a Narcissist: Adult Bullying

We all remember the playground bullies from childhood.  Mean and calculated– unrelenting and remorseless.  They seem to thrive on wounding others.  An adult version of the playground bully is Peter Cook, also known as the poster child for extreme narcissism.

The fact that this man is an actual diagnosed, malignant narcissist and that he is getting away with dragging Christie Brinkley through the court system baffles me.  It is a waste of tax-payers dollars, Ms. Brinkley’s time and the court’s time.  Peter Cook wants direct access to Christie Brinkley and uses co-parenting as an excuse to have contact.  He doesn’t want access to allow him to co-parent; he wants access so that he can continue to victimize her.

There is no such thing as co-parenting when you are dealing with a Narcissist.  A Narcissist is like a 6-year old child with mental health problems.  The courts would not expect you to co-parent with a 6-year old so why would they expect you to co-parent with a Narcissist like Peter Cook?

My X has a new girlfriend and I have been told that she knows about my blog.  I am perplexed by the mere thought of that.  I know how charming and manipulative that he can be but to have inside information about what your future holds would cause me to run screaming from the situation.  That brings me to Peter Cook and his new wife, Suzanne Shaw.  Suzanne Shaw is holding a crystal ball into what her future divorce will hold.  Maybe he has her convinced that Narcissistic Personality Disorder will make him a better husband—just like he tried to convince Matt Lauer that it makes him a better father?

Our courts need to begin taking these issues seriously.  There needs to be ongoing education for Judges, Commissioners and attorneys.  Change needs to happen- I encourage you to write to your representatives and let your voice be heard.

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