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Peter Cook and Suzanne Shaw Divorce: Cheating Again

Peter Cook and Suzanne Shaw Divorce: Cheating Again

peterby Tina Swithin

This one can be labeled  under, “We all saw it coming” but, I will be honest in saying that the marriage of Peter Cook and Suzanne Shaw Cook lasted much longer than I expected. Following a case like this can be somewhat boring because all narcissists use the same playbook (yaaawnnnn). In the beginning of the case, Peter took responsibility for his actions in a way that only narcissists do: I’m sorry but it was all Christie’s fault that I strayed. A half-ass apology and then victim blaming. Typical.

Peter then quickly moved on to Suzanne Shaw because, as we all know, they can’t be without Narcissistic Supply for very long. Suzanne quickly jumped on the “bash Christie” bandwagon and became Peter’s prized minion carrying out his dirty work and bashing and blaming Christie at every opportunity. The goal for Peter was to stay in the spotlight while carrying out his main agenda: hurting the woman who first saw through  him.  In predictable narcissistic fashion, Peter holds Christie responsible for the public lashing he took when it was discovered that he had carried on a two year affair with Diana Bianchi. This two-year affair was discovered when Ms. Bianchi was 17-years old. I will let you do the math on her age when the affair began.

Do I blame Suzanne Shaw? I don’t blame her because I have been charmed by an individual like Peter Cook and have since dedicated my life to raising awareness on the topic of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Peter Cook was diagnosed by a court appointed psychiatrist as an “insatiable narcissist” with a porn habit costing thousands of dollars per month. Described in today’s NY Post article as “a cheater” and a “creep” along with words like “narcissist” and “desperate,” I’m not usually one to say, “I told you so” but in this situation, we all knew it was a matter of time….

This current issue with Peter Cook goes to show the depths of his illness and evil. As early as last week, he was still groveling to the National Enquirer about Christie Brinkley because at this point, that is the only media outlet who will listen to his rants and all the while, his marriage secretly ended back in February according to media reports. This man is so hell-bent on trying to destroy Christie Brinkley’s reputation and so arrogant that he hoped that no one would pick up on the fact that he continued to jump from one woman to another while sporting a wedding ring. Peter Cook is the definition of vile.

I hope this serves as a teachable moment for all women dating. Pay attention to internal red flags when dating and pay attention to external red flags – such as the words and experiences of others who have walked before you. If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck….it might just be a duck. If it sleeps in other women’s beds like a narcissist (while married) and talks (lies, projects and re-creates reality) like a narcissist….it might just be a narcissist.

It will be interesting to see if we hear more from Suzanne Shaw, my guess based on the statement by Peter’s attorney leads me to believe that Suzanne has been hushed with a narcissist’s most prized possession: money.

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Divorcing a Narcissist: The Suzanne Shaw and Peter Cook Saga Continues

Divorcing a Narcissist: The Suzanne Shaw and Peter Cook Saga Continues

by Tina Swithin

There are several things that I know to be true of Narcissists and the Narcissist’s World (which includes their inner circle: new girlfriend, new wife, etc).

  • When tragedy strikes, so do they.
  • They hate to be ignored.  They cannot handle it.
  • The Narcissist’s inner circle often goes into ‘attack mode’ to protect their Narcissist from anyone who tries to shed light on the situation or the Narcissist.  They feed the Narcissist’s ego by defending him and in turn, they are showered with gifts, compliments and validation that “he” is the most wonderful man on the planet.

There was an article posted in today’s New York Post about Suzanne Shaw and Peter Cook.  Many media sources suggest that Suzanne has fled the country amidst rumors that Mr. Cook cheated on her.  Shocking, I know.  The article goes onto quote Suzanne Shaw as saying, “The black cloud of Christie Brinkley’s hate has hung over our lives for the five years I have been with Peter, and has taken an unhappy toll on me and my daughter’s life — on all our lives. I needed a break.”

My comments in reference to my three observations of Narcissists and how it relates to this situation:

1. When tragedy strikes, so do they.  Christie Brinkley is in mourning.  She has lost both parents in a very short period of time and this loss has devastated her, as it would anyone of us.  Therefore, he is lashing out at her while she is down.  Most of us can’t understand that because we have compassion and empathy.  Narcissists have never (nor can they ever) experienced compassion or empathy.  It is impossible.  They are emotionally deceased.

The general public is uneducated on Narcissism. They wrongfully assume that Mr. Cook must have valid reason to have so much animosity towards Ms. Brinkley. Why else would his constant attacks happen? They happen because he has an incurable personality disorder than makes him inhuman. If you are unfamiliar with Narcissism, this is textbook behavior and I encourage you to research Narcissistic Personality Disorder and how it relates to divorce before passing judgement.

2. They hate to be ignored.  They simply cannot handle it. Mr. Cook has been relentless in his pursuit to attack her and to stay front and center in the media spotlight- in true Narcissistic fashion.  He is in need of his next “fix” by attacking her or trying to gain media attention.  The bottom line is: he can’t get his fix and it is making him insane.

3. The Narcissist’s inner circle often goes into ‘attack mode’ to protect their Narcissist from anyone who tries to shed light on the situation or the Narcissist.  They feed the Narcissist’s ego by defending him and in turn, they are showered with gifts, compliments and validation that “he” is the most wonderful man on the planet and has been victimized.  I have walked in these shoes.  I made the typical excuses in my head: “No one understands him like I do”.  Narcissists have an uncanny ability to make themselves out to be the victim and because their supply sources (Suzanne Shaw) can’t believe that he is anything but wonderful, she goes on the attack.

Another excerpt from today’s New York Post:

Shaw’s become increasingly vocal in the fracas between Cook and his ex, whom she describes as “vengeful.” In June she posted a list of “lies” she accused Brinkley of propagating on the model’s Facebook page. “I posted it early,” Shaw said. “Peter told me she is a late sleeper so I got a good hour or so out of it . . . ha ha.”

Brinkley had no comment. But a source countered: “Christie’s been occupied all summer by her parents who were ill. She recently buried both of them. She has been in mourning . . . and is starting rehearsals for the tour of ‘Chicago.’ ” The source added, “Suzanne has been the vengeful one by posting on Christie’s Facebook page.”

My final comments:

I like many am sitting here trying to figure out what the current issue is?  Ms. Shaw “fled the country” sometime this summer and Christie has been at her dying parents bedside for many, many months.  Maybe the media reports of Mr. Cook’s infidelity are true (no one saw THAT coming!) and in an effort to save face, Suzanne is trying to avoid the wrath of “I told ya so” by shifting the focus off of herself.

I think that the black cloud has a name and it has absolutely nothing to do with Christie Brinkley.  By all accounts, I believe that it is Suzanne Shaw who is incredibly vengeful in her relentless pursuit to attack Ms. Brinkley during her time of mourning.  I can personally attest to this because I was on the receiving end of messages from Ms. Shaw in the aftermath of their most recent court trial.

I admire Ms. Brinkley’s grace when she addresses the media in the same way she addresses Mr. Cook’s attacks, “No comment”.      

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Divorcing a Narcissist: Peter Cook and Suzanne Shaw

Divorcing a Narcissist: Peter Cook and Suzanne Shaw

peterby Tina Swithin

I remember how “special” that a Narcissist can make you feel.  I remember feeling like the most beautiful girl in the world during our courtship and by the end of our marriage, I could barely look at myself in the mirror.  He pointed out my every flaw –sometimes in a very passive aggressive way and sometimes in a direct and down-right mean way.

In the beginning, you feel so special and will do anything for these men.  Case in point: Suzanne Shaw.  Ms. Shaw sent me two messages this week through my blog defending Peter Cook with every ounce of her being.  Suzanne Shaw went so far as to say that Peter Cook was NOT a Narcissist and that he only has narcissistic tenancies.  Yes, she actually said that.  Maybe Suzanne missed the Today Show interview where Peter Cook actually admits that being a Narcissist makes him a better dad. In her message to me, Suzanne said, “You are so blind” and then went onto say that she, “feels sorry for me”.

The court-appointed psychiatrist, Dr. Stephen Herman, said in the court proceeding, that Peter Cook is an “insatiable narcissist”.  Dr. Herman recommended that Brinkley get full custody of the kids because Cook is a narcissist who has demonstrated “poor judgment.”  He then went on to cite Cook’s 35 sexual partners, a two-hour-a-day internet porn habit and his “impulsive, self-destructive, possibly compulsive” affair with a teenager.

Marriage material?  Hmm….

The other thing that never ceases to amaze me is the way that all Narcissists seem to come from the same mold.  There are slight variations almost like you would find with a batch of cookies but basically, there are common threads that I find with every woman that I speak to.  Over the past six months, I can’t count the number of times someone has said, “I feel like I just read my life story when I found your blog“. It’s the same cycle each time. They just insert a new woman and press “repeat”.  For now, Suzanne is feeding Peter’s narcissistic supply by believing that he is the victim and that she is protecting his image at every turn.  She feels special because he is making her feel that way.  She believes his stories and has bought into each one of them.

I harbor no hard feelings towards Suzanne.  God knows I have been in her shoes and defended my X at any mention of his wrongdoing.  As I’ve said before, I am thankful that Suzanne has many resources available to her when she needs them.  It is a matter of time before the tides will turn and she will understand Narcissistic Personality Disorder at a very intimate level. When that time comes, Suzanne, I can be reached at tina@onemomsbattle.com.

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