Monroe County CPS is failing to protect children. Erie County is under the microscope because of the death of little Eian Brooks. I hope I am not the first to point out that you have this all backwards. You are supposed to act to prevent deaths and child abuse but sadly, you wait until a child is tortured and dies before you examine your policies and staff members.
I have been following a specific case in Monroe County for quite some time. I feel this mother’s pain even though we’ve never officially met. She is in New York and I am in California. We are separated by thousands of miles but united by cell phone as I anxiously await text messages from her on the weekends that her son is with his abuser. I am relieved to hear that she’s spoken with her son because that means he is still alive. I am even more relieved when she sends me a message to let me know that he is back in her car after a visit with his father.
His father is supposed to love him but he doesn’t. He tortures him. There is an army of people documenting this abuse and currently, there are 14 CPS reports filed with Monroe County…two of them are still open and active cases. These have been filed by mandated reporters. I have viewed photos of the bruises and I have even personally reached out to Deborah Rosen, Director of Monroe County CPS to no avail. This mother is a true Warrior by every definition of the word. She has taken this to the Governor and she’s even taken it to President Obama. She is sent in circles….being pushed from one agency to another.
Someone needs to protect this child and many others who are suffering at the hands of this inept agency. The documentation on this case is mind-blowing. I have reviewed it and I can say without a shadow of a doubt that this is a complete failure of the system.
This is a small snippet into the life of this mother and child as published on the Stop Abuse Campaign.
by Anonymous Warrior Mom
It is a typical Monday morning as I get my son ready for school, having his clothes all laid out the evening before. I get him out of bed to get him dressed as I do every morning. My little blonde haired son, big blue eyes, trying to fight back the tears, shakes his head “No mommy, I don’t want to wear that shirt today to school.”
“It is your favorite shirt, Spider Man.”
He goes over to his dresser to pull out a long sleeve shirt and hands it to me as his eyes fill up with tears. I have seen that look so many Monday mornings. The routine has become too familiar.
As I slowly take his shirt off, our eyes fixed on each other, both fighting back the tears that are welling up in our eyes, trying to hide the bruises. Bruises that he got on his weekend visit with someone that is supposed to love him. Without him saying one word to me, I know where those bruises came from. They are all over his little body, some big, some small. As I finish getting him dressed, he gives me a big hug and whispers in my ear, “thank you mommy. Now no one will see my boo boos.”
I give him a big hug and say “I love you.”
This is what I think of when I read about the Kansas “spanking bill” 2699. This is what I think about when I read anything that normalizes or endorses corporal punishment. As long is corporal punishment against children is used, it will be over-used. The state officials who I’ve turned to in order to protect my son have told me again and again “corporal punishment is legal in New York.” What is considered “excessive” is a matter of opinion.
It’s the State’s opinion.
It’s my son.
And he’s hurt.
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