Divorcing a Narcissist: Peter Cook and Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Divorcing a Narcissist: Peter Cook and Narcissistic Personality Disorder

by Tina Swithin

I awoke to a heartfelt message on my Facebook page from Christie Brinkley that I want to share with each of you.  Anyone who has been victimized by an emotional vampire (Narcissist) such as Peter Cook can understand what Christie has been through.  Many people, including the media can not understand.  They believe the version that Peter Cook is feeding them and the version that his latest victim, Suzanne Shaw has bought into.

Christie Brinkley’s Personal Statement:

“Once and for all, this is my last word on the subject. Let it be known, that I “moved on” from my marriage to Peter Cook the moment a police officer tapped me on the shoulder and informed me that “my husband had been cheating on me in a two year affair with his 17 year-old-daughter.” Since that moment, it has been an odyssey of frustration as I have navigated the court system with one goal to find peace and protection for my family from the various forms of abuse at the hands of a narcissist.

I had a prenup, a confidentiality agreement, and a “civility clause” that all cost a lot of money, but were for all intents and purposes ignored and useless against the extended character assassination and extortion attempts I have endured. While extortion for money he was not owed was Peter Cook’s shameless goal in this last round, I was seeking respite from narcissist abuse by fighting for the right to enforce the “No Contact Rule” which is imperative for persons, mostly women, dealing with a person diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

In a late night settlement, I finally won the right to establish boundaries with provisions such as an intermediary to deal with email bullying, verbal and emotional abuse. I am hopeful the steps taken will now protect my Constitutional right to quiet enjoyment and peace and serve as a template for the courts to help others avoid the lengthy trials and tribulations that cost taxpayers money, and at a cost to families that CAN be calculated in dollars. But its the emotional toll which can only be measured in tears that must be considered by the courts and media alike.” 

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In March, Glenn and I had the pleasure of meeting Christie Brinkley and I personally saw the pain in her eyes that I recognize in my own eyes– and the eyes of many other women that I have met.  A pain that is inflicted at the hands of someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.  To have that pain compounded by the media circus that Peter Cook has orchestrated to feed his Narcissistic Supply is like pouring salt into a very deep, painful wound.  I hope that this amazing woman finally gets the peace that she has fought so hard for.  I will keep her beautiful daughter in my prayers because I understand how it feels to turn your children over to a man like this.  The children are nothing more than Narcissistic Supply for men like this– only to be discarded when they no longer feed his ego.

There is something drastically wrong with our court system when Christie is forced to hand her daughter off to a diagnosed Narcissist with a extreme porn addiction and an admitted affair with a teenager.  What person in their right mind– (general public or media) can possibly stand behind this man and his new wife?

If I had one wish right now, it would be to work with Christie Brinkley and a handful of other amazing women that I have connected with to bring education to the public and the courts on Narcissistic Personality Disorder.  It is our children who are being most affected and that needs to stop.

Additional Information on Peter Cook and Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

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2 Responses

  1. While I’m not as intimate with her story as you are, I watched with horror this weekend as “legitimate” news organizations “reported,” with no sense of decorum whatsoever. They touted the old line about how divorced parents need to get along for the kids’ sake, but none of them would dare place blame on one party for not doing so. The parties that most need to listen to that advice rarely heed it, and in such cases, parents like you and Christie are fighting for just that! I have low expectations for this changing the media’s perception, but what’s most important in this victory is the personal aspect for her. My best wishes to her and her family.

  2. It’s so frustrating to watch.

    This is my response to “journalist” from NYMag and I use the title lightly because the article was not journalism by any sense of the word:

    You have obviously been an understudy of Matt Lauer in the field of ignorance. I encourage you to educate yourself on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. There are fabulous resources available such as http://afternarcissisticabuse.wordpress.com/ and http://www.facebook.com/RespitefromSociopathicBeha… As a journalist, you have an ethical obligation to the public to be educated on topics before reporting on them. You were sold on the pr pitch of a narcissist– nothing more. You should be ashamed of yourself.
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    Can you sense my annoyance???? T