Divorcing a Narcissist: Today Was a Life Changing Day

Divorcing a Narcissist: Today Was a Life Changing Day

finish lineYesterday I posted asking for prayers, positive thoughts and pixie dust.

Today I received all three and then some.

As I said in yesterday’s post (click here to read), a crazy turn of events began with a woman reading my book and wanting to assist me in my battle.  Today, that very same woman paid the retainer fee to secure me one of the best attorneys in my county. I have spent the past 30 minutes crying and now I will try and put into words what this means to me.

I equate the past 3.5 years to a 26 mile marathon. I began mile one without an ounce of training and I forgot to eat my pasta dinner the night before the race.  I’m not a runner and no one explained how difficult this race would be. I’ve made it to mile 20 but I have walked most of the way. I know that I only have 6 miles to go however, it is uphill and it feels daunting.  I am starting to doubt myself and I don’t know how I am going to make it to the end. I am determined and driven so I know I will make it but I may be crawling across the finish line.  I may also need a stretcher to carry me to the first aid tent at the end.

That is how I feel.  I have come so far in a battle that I wasn’t prepared for.  I am not a fighter and this battle has drained me. For the past few weeks, I have been consumed with my upcoming trial on April 10th and 11th. While I have handled all of the hearings up until now on my own, the thought of going to an actual trial against Seth and  Vinnie Slaramon feels daunting. Tomorrow I meet with my new attorney in person and I am overflowing with gratitude.

I will never forget this incredible act of kindness.  I can’t wait for the opportunity to do the same for someone else someday.  Angels are real and one of them has just given me the gift of a lifetime.  Thank you. So much.  Tina

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11 Responses

  1. What an awesome thing to have happen to you! Congratulations…many good things coming from your book! You’ve helped so many people and now karma is coming back to you once more!

  2. Congratulations. You deserve this and so much more. I stumbled across your info and read the intro and felt it was divine intervention. you have no idea how awesome it was to finally have understanding and to feel like someone “got it”. I ordered your book and can not wait for it to arrive. Good things come to you because you have helped others like me. Thank you and congratulations.

  3. You are very lucky! Not all of us r that lucky to have an anonymous angel come along and provide a gift of that magnitude! I’ve prayed & prayd for God to send me angels to help & aid me n dealing with the devil himself I was married to. Here 5 yrs later or 6, I lost track BC hes still terrorizing me n my life, cost me yet another job & career I loved, all bc he refuses to let me move on with my life! Then to top things off, he has my baby girl BC I could not afford an attorney but his mother paid for him to have one. Sum thing she regrets doing now BC of what he’s been putting our daughter thru! She actually attempted suicide bc she’s under so much stress and hates being with him and wants to b with me! So congrats on ur blessing. Jus please Dnt forget to pray for us out here that are still suffering with our exs;-) God bless u & yours!

    Karen S

  4. Hi,

    I’ve been reading your blog for a while, and I’m really glad to hear about this! I have a couple of friends who are in abusive relationships, and although they are both capable women who show tremendous ingenuity in the way they cope with their situation, I spend a lot of time worrying about them and despairing that they’ll ever break free. This news gives me hope for them, too.

    I hope your daughters will soon be safe and that they’ll be able to heal. Please give them both hugs from me, a random stranger on the internet.

  5. I am so happy for you Tina! Will continue to pray for you and yours…..many blessings to you~~Lisa

  6. I am SO happy for you! And thank you to the Good Samaritan!

    A good attorney who really gets the issue is helpful, to say the least, when going up against a narcissist. Sure helps with the stress and exhaustion of dealing with the narcissist’s chaos, which I can totally relate to!

    Your attorney is going to appreciate all the evidence you’ve collected and organized 🙂 Fingers crossed for the trial dates. You have done everything right, put the girls’s best interest first each time and will walk into that courtroom calm and confident!

  7. I am so happy for your tina,I wished I have ana ngel so i can sue my narc ex for the abuse his kids did to me while he so blindly allowed it to happen and did not a thing to stop it, even after being told by police, in laws that they were doing it to me.Because of the”abuse” i suffer a bad hip from all the time holding a door shut in my bedroom sitting on a floor night after night protecting my baby shile the two monsters harassed me, threatened me, kicked, pounded my door night after a night and i screamed for help the walls were thin and no body heard me, i am taking action because of your book, i’m going to get the hip, my spin where one hit me with a dog elash and my ribs where i was kicked in by the door and them non stop when i had to protect my baby and punched in my ribs,i’m getting documented so i cna get teh cs upped an dhold the narc ex accountable,he may believe his own fantasy worl of put the blame on her and his remarks won’t fly”iw as working night” even after he was told time and time again even called by a cop at work, not happening any mroe.thank you for teh book, thank you for helping me see through the narc and being strong

  8. You don’t need to wait to do this help for others in the future. You’ve helped thousands with your blog. As Seth said Karma will get you Tina. And how it has!

  9. so proud of you, you deserve this. your lawyer should pay you, as Z points out above.
    god bless you, and yours, and also your poor crazy ex.