One Mom’s Battle Has Many Faces: #2

One Mom’s Battle Has Many Faces: #2

From Tina: I recently decided to start featuring stories from other women who are in this battle.  As I said before, One Mom’s Battle has many faces.  Part of my healing has come from connecting with these other women and sharing stories, giggles and tears.  I have found a tremendous support system through this blog and it has helped me to realize that I am not alone.  I call them the “Warrior Moms” and while I know there are also many men affected by Narcissists and Psychopaths, the vast majority of my interaction is with other brave moms.

One Mom’s Battle Has Many Faces –from all over the world.

Here is Face #2 – a fellow warrior mommy from Hawaii:

Duped, bamboozled, taken.  These words remind me of a sleazy insurance salesman who sold a foul policy to an unsuspecting victim. My ex happened to be an insurance salesman; well spoken, smooth, smart, confident, charming, good looking.  No wonder how I, the unsuspecting victim, bought his foul policy.

It was a long distance relationship.  The long distance factor worked well for the narc.  He could charm me over the phone with all the grandiose ideas that his weaselly mind could create.  He could tell me how fantastic of a person he was and I had zero way of double check anything.  We saw each other only once a month, so for those weekends, he could keep up his charm easily.  I didn’t see the dark side until it was too late.  One weekend led to a pregnancy, which is when the nightmare began.

I didn’t want to stay with him through the pregnancy, nor afterwards.  I saw too many signs that something wasn’t right but I didn’t have any clue what I was dealing with. I just continued to be baffled at how someone could be so mean, nasty and angry.  All the while projecting his bad traits on to me.

Now I know he is a true narcissist and battling one for child custody is horrendous.  I am strong,  I am a great Mommy, I have a Master’s degree, I have a fantastic family, I keep myself physically and emotionally together. But regardless of all I do well, the narc is winning.  He is crushing my being. He is so slick in court, the judges give him everything he wants.  Name changes, long visitations of my nursing infant, joint physical custody, joint legal custody and worst of all for me,  overnights to begin very soon.  He has the resources to fight forever which he assures me he will do. Unlimited legal resources + NPD = pure destruction.

Thank God I discovered this website.  It’s all that gives me hope. I have learned how to deal with his attacks, now I need to learn how to heal and how to start winning.

My little baby’s spirit will be crushed by this man.

Mine is already crushed, but not enough that I won’t try to protect until the end.

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