Divorcing a Narcissist: Helping Each Other Through this Experience

Divorcing a Narcissist: Helping Each Other Through this Experience

Once in a while I receive messages from people that I find incredibly helpful.  Today was one of those days- I received two incredibly helpful tips that I want to share with you.  I love this blog (and the Facebook page) because there are so many of us bonded together- helping hands.  I hope that at least one of these items can help you on your path as they have helped me.

1.Contact your local law school– here is why:

Tina – hope everything is going well with you. As always I read your blog daily for inspiration and strength for the battles. I wanted to share some information with you about some great news I got today. I have been on mission for the past few months and I may be close to getting help.
I reached out to the local University of Arizona Law School; they have a Domestic Violence Law Clinic that consist of law students and several well know local lawyers. I applied for their program which provides DV women pro bono legal advice and will help in filing any legal documents. They called last week and I did an over the phone interview with one of the students. They said it might take up to a month to get back with me because they have to do checks and get police reports before deciding.

Well, they called today…a week later and said they would accept my case. They said they were appalled by the actions of the judges that have ruled in my divorce and in DV court. We are meeting next week to come up with the game plan. But the first thing they want to do is file for an order of protection for my daughters. I won’t file for it, they will. I’m overwhelmed with gratitude to you for showing a path to me that I didn’t think was possible. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.  I will keep you updated and as always prayers to our children.  Click here for the link:Arizona Law School

2. California has a program called, “Safe at Home” and this was the information that I’ve needed to hide my home address.  Luckily since we don’t have to be out of our former home until mid-October, I have some time before I need to legally notify my X.  I spoke to an intake counselor today and with the help of my counselor, declarations from his (X’s) other victims and past police reports, I am a candidate! 

Please check to see if a similar program is offered in your individual state.  Here is the information that I received from someone on “our” Facebook page:

Hi! So I am still catching up on your blog so if you have already mentioned this sorry. Sept 7 entry about undisclosed addresses, some can apply for Safe At Home through Secretary of States office (California). I am a dv survivor and currently enrolled. I went to my local women’s abuse organization called WEAVE and enrolled. It depends on the history but its available. Please check it out.  Click here for the link.


Thank you to each of you who provides me with information, love and support.  I appreciate all of you more than I can ever express!!!

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3 Responses

  1. Praise the Lord. So happy for all who are resourceful and finding ways to protect themselves and their families and for those with the courage to do the right thing. Whooohooo:)! My X stays just out of reach on these issues, for that I can be thankful, but I am so glad that there is refuge for those whose Xs are of far more concern. Thanks Tina for your courage to endure this battle and thanks to all for sharing.

  2. I’d also like to add that before I even started the process of divorce I was able to identify the way I was being treated as abusive, even though I wasn’t being hit. I called my local DV shelter and they had a lawyer on staff who was willing to talk to me at length about what I needed to do to protect myself and my kids. Once the proceedings were over and my ex continued to try to bully, manipulate and abuse and control me, the DV shelter was still willing to give me access to the lawyer to help me with the forms I needed and the wording to use on them to get our order modified. It was enormously helpful!