I received a scathing email tonight from someone who had her panties in a bunch (technical terms) regarding child support. She criticized me for “claiming to be a strong, self sufficient woman” and stated that I was playing both sides. Basically, I was accused of pretending to be Ms. Independent while unable to stand on my own two feet without help. She went on to say that I would set a better example for women by being completely independent from my X and she essentially equated child support to welfare.
Oh my goodness.
Sometimes, you have to laugh. For starters, there is a good chance that it was my X or someone from his camp although the “anonymous” person actually complimented me a few times so unless pigs have started to fly to Florida for the winter, it was probably a random person. I hope that one day I have enough time on my hands to sit and write long-winded emails to people that I don’t know to criticize them about everything under the sun. No…wait…that’s not true. I would actually take that spare time and do something productive or helpful in the world. (Thanks for letting me vent…I feel better already).
As you know, I have a hearing coming up on the 19th for child support. I am hoping that the Commissioner holds my X in Contempt of Court because nothing else seems to work. With that said, I would like to make my stance on child support clear for anyone who wants to send me future hate mail about child support:
My X fathered two children. He has proven over the past three years that he is not fit to have our daughters more than a handful of days throughout the month. He has created this situation by his own actions. We began this divorce with an agreement that allowed him to have a lot of time with our daughters. His choices and decisions have brought us to the place we are today. Not mine.
My X fights to be a part of our daughters’ lives. I know that his motives revolve around control and winning but that is beside the point right now. If he wants to participate in their lives then he has an obligation to assist with their financial needs. If he chooses to walk away then I would gladly waive the entire balance and any future financial needs. For me, it’s about the principle of the matter.
PS To anyone who feels the urge to send me ‘not-so-nice’ emails in the future, save yourself some time and do something productive with that energy. Smile at a stranger, buy someone lunch or give yourself a big ginormous hug! You don’t have to agree with everything that I say (that would be boring!) but you aren’t allowed to be mean. Thanks! Tina 🙂