The end of July marks a significant milestone for me. 100,000 views on my blog in eight short months. 100,000 is a very large number no matter how you look at it. There are only 80,000 people residing in the City of Santa Barbara, California and I am now seeing 20,000 people per month who visit my website. Simple math tells me that this is a subject that needs more attention. There are so many men and women being affected by Narcissism but living in silence because the people around them just don’t understand.
I remember when I decided to start my blog at the end of last year. I had kicked around the idea for quite some time and the goal was to tell my story- to allow myself to read it from start to finish and try to make sense of it all. I remember the feeling that I used to have when people would ask, “Why are you still fighting in court- hasn’t it been 2 years now?” — I couldn’t even form a sentence. I couldn’t explain it to anyone. It was too overwhelming because there wasn’t just one thing– there were hundreds and hundreds of things. How do you sum up “Divorcing a Narcissist” in a conversation over coffee?
That is the exact reason why my heart broke when I saw Matt Lauer deal an insensitive blow to Christie Brinkley in front of millions of people. I sat there staring at the television and I froze. I personally become a deer in headlights when someone says, “Why can’t you both just move on? Why can’t you put the children first?” My new answer- I am doing that. I am putting my children first.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is confusing to neighbors, teachers, co-workers and friends. It is confusing to Judges, commissioners, attorneys and social workers. The courts are uneducated on Narcissism because it is so easily masked. The general public, media and courts are accustomed to hearing about “dead beat dads” so when a father puts up a fight to stay in his child’s life, it is refreshing AND it is rewarded. The problem lies in the fact that he doesn’t want to be in his child’s life for the right reasons. He wants to “beat” the mother by taking the one thing that means the most. He wants to “own” the children. He wants to control the children since he can no longer control his wife.
By trade, I work in social media and public relations. In my profession it would be “hitting the jackpot” to report back to a client that their website had surpassed 100,000 UVPM in just 8 months. The success of One Mom’s Battle isn’t the same jackpot that many professionals in my industry aspire for. I have hit the jackpot by connecting with you, by hearing your stories and by working together to be one united voice. Thank you for listening to my story and for sharing your stories with me. There is great power in numbers and I hope that we can continue to speak up and make changes by educating the public.
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