I am still waiting on the parenting evaluation. I don’t see the delay as a negative by any means. I believe that the evaluator on our case is the very best that I could have ever hoped for. I know that the process is taking a long time because there is so much to investigate when it comes to Seth.
In addition to the items that were ordered to be investigated, there are new items that come up every single week. There are Seth’s recent cancellations, the lack of phone calls and odd things that the girls have mentioned about Seth and his living arrangements. I would not want to be in the evaluator’s shoes right now as I can’t even imagine the investigative work that is needed. At this point, we will probably be asking for a continuance on the 2-day trial scheduled for April 10th and 11th as we need more time to review the final report.
The Gift: I am still overcome with gratitude due to the gift of a complete stranger who assisted me in securing an attorney. I relayed the story to my therapist this morning by email and her exact words were, “Tina- that just gave me the chills!” Now that the shock has worn off, the sense of peace that this act of kindness brings is difficult to put into words. I feel completely qualified to go up against Seth in court when we are both in pro se however; a two-day trial against Seth’s slimy attorney is more than I am capable of handling. There were so many times over the past month that I have found myself staring blankly at the computer screen…too overwhelmed to even start the paperwork to prepare for trial. I have come so far and was terrified that I would blow it in the final lap. This generous gift has renewed my spirit and given me the tools that I need for battle.
The Gift that Keeps Giving: As many of you know, I am getting married this weekend. Glenn and I have been through so much together over the past four years. He has restored my faith in men and people in general. He is everything that I have ever wanted in a partner but most of all, he is my best friend. I am getting married to the most centered, humble, caring man that I have ever met. I am grateful to be able to be “present” on my wedding day instead of worrying about my upcoming trial. I feel so confident in the attorney who is representing me that I will actually be able to let go for the weekend and live in the moment that I have dreamed of my entire life.
I will be MIA for a few days but I will be back—as a married woman! I promise to post pictures– from a follower of my blog who is flying all the way from Atlanta to photograph my magical day! There will be lots of photos to share as my dear friend will also be there with camera in hand! Thankful!!!! Love, Tina
Huffington Post Udates
- Tune in on Thursday when I will be on the Huff Post Live with Dr. Craig Malkin and Dr. Sam Vaknin to talk about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Details to follow- should be a very interesting segment!
- My recent article in the Huffington Post: Why Our Family Courts are Failing
- Follow me at the Huffington Post Divorce: Tina Swithin
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