Divorcing a Narcissist: Peter Cook’s Internal Feud

Divorcing a Narcissist: Peter Cook’s Internal Feud

Narc-decoderby Tina Swithin

Along with the rest of the world, I have become intimately familiar with the ongoing feud between Peter Cook and Peter Cook.

No, that wasn’t a typo. I did not mean to say, “the ongoing feud between Peter Cook and Christie Brinkley.” By definition, it takes two people to feud and Christie Brinkley has taken the high road throughout this long and drawn out battle. Christie has practiced the number one rule while divorcing a narcissist: do not engage.

Peter Cook’s most recent (and desperate) vie for attention appeared in Radar Online which highlights an email that Cook wrote in the wake of Christie Brinkley’s feature in People Magazine:


Over the last 8 years I have taken a lot of hits by way of your gross exaggerations, revisionist history, and self-serving dishonesty, but nothing could be more egregious than this incontrovertible lie. I let you get away with a lot for the sake our children. When you initially filed for divorce and you attempted to prejudice opinion of me by falsely accusing me of EVER being inappropriate with Sailor was the death knell for me as far as you were concerned. That was the day I took my wedding ring off.

You know I could not love or care for my children more, and that I have NEVER raised my hand to ANYONE, or surely you would not have encourage my adoption of Jack 3-years after we married. That you could so blatantly lie about such a sacred trust to position yourself as a victim once again is disgraceful. I didn’t think you could get any lower in you endeavors to stay relevant in the media than through your relentless trashing of the father of your children, and I don’t care about you or what motivates you to now perpetuate this horrific lie, and then to have your PR team work so diligently to see it is perpetuated throughout all possible media outlets… but I insist that you immediately demand that they work as thoroughly and dilligently to issue YOUR PERSONAL public correction/retraction and demand this libelous content be wiped from the media, immediately.

Nothing could be more upsetting than being falsely accused of being abusive to one’s children, particularly given the irony that the greatest abuse these children have endured is your insistence on publicizing our trial, our divorce these many years later, and making them suffer your need for attention at any and all cost:

“Brinkley won a large settlement, especially after revelation of Cook’s heavy hand on the three children.”

That’s just one of MANY sources carrying your line.

In PEOPLE Magazine you state your “50′s weren’t easy” because you “…went through a miserable divorce (from architect Peter Cook) while trying TO BE A PILLAR FOR MY KIDS…”

There is nothing about YOU FIGHTING and CAMPAIGNING to see our divorce proceedings were publicized, making our private lives media fodder for our children to have to endure for GOOGLE eternity, making false and dishonest statements about the father of your children and making every effort to alienate the children from their father that qualifies you as being a “pillar” for our children! –Peter Cook

Anyone who follows my blog at One Mom’s Battle knows about my infamous “Narc Decoder” which is a patent pending machine created to help people understand the special language exclusive to individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I am convinced that one day, the NPD manual will be uncovered from a secret hiding spot because the NPD language is not unique and in fact, if you’ve seen one narcissistic email, you’ve seen them all. I will be honest in saying that when I first read Peter’s email and based on its content, I assumed that Christie’s interview with People Magazine was chock full of details of her divorce proceedings.

In the interview which spanned five-pages, there was no mention of Peter Cook other than the following quote by Ms. Brinkley, “My 50’s weren’t easy. I lost both my parents and went through a miserable divorce while trying to be a pillar for my kids. But I made it through. Now I feel on top of my game.” 

Without further ado, here is the email from Mr. Cook after being processed through the Narc Decoder which, by the way, was smoking and crackling as this little gem passed through it:


I am foaming at the mouth over the fact that you are receiving press (again) and that you look so happy. Please sit tight as I project my own behaviors, gross exaggerations and self-serving dishonesty onto you. I may even minimize my own past and current behavior while I’m at it because that is what narcissists generally do!

The day that I (first) took my wedding ring off was the day I began grooming the 15-year old girl whom I met in a toy store. While I was in the toy store under the guise of a doting dad, you and I both know I was there because of the beautiful teenage girl who was working behind the counter. How dare the media pick up on this! The only reason that this even made the news is because YOU are a celebrity. Now that I think about it, I actually believe that my affair was YOUR fault.

I am still quite furious that you didn’t insist on our divorce proceedings being kept sealed and private. Regardless of the fact that all divorces in New York are public record, I really wanted to keep my $3,000 per month porn habit under wraps. Just think how deceitful I could have been while “accidentally” feeding the media my lies. With a sealed divorce, there would have been no way for them to verify any of it. Why can’t you just do what I say?

I am so bitter that the media is interested in you and that at 60 years old, you were picked up by a major modeling agency. My hope is that you will become as ugly on the outside as I am on the inside. Someone out there needs to start believing that you are a selfish monster who is relentlessly trashing me, the father of your children. The challenging part for me is that in all these years, not a single person can actually find a statement where you’ve disparaged me. I am so frustrated by this! I demand that you immediately retract all the things that you never said about me! DO IT NOW!!!!

As you know, I have needlessly dragged our children through the media because my narcissistic supply sits on empty the vast majority of the time. My “refuel” light starts flashing every single time you receive media attention and as we both know, I prey on those who are uneducated on NPD so that they will report that we are feuding. By definition, it takes two people to feud however; the general population isn’t that smart and they pool us together while the sad reality is that I feud all by myself. Have I mentioned lately how smart I am?

In regards to my statement to Radar Online, “But the excuses for her behavior are dishonest, convenient and increasingly difficult to accept. She’s simply using narcissism to distract from the real conversation.”

What we both know that I meant was this: how dare you use my diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder to explain my behavior. How dare you tell the truth!  – Peter

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