In 2012, my X has only had a total of 22 unsupervised visits with the children (6 hours each visit) and the amount of damage that has happened during that time is almost hard to grasp. Upon return from the visits, my youngest daughter has nightmares for several days and has now regressed in potty training- during the day and at night. Let me remind you that she is 5 years old and was originally potty trained at the age of 2. She has had countless periods of regression all centered around visitation issues. There is nothing more frustrating in this world than to watch your children suffer emotionally and have no power to fix it because you are at the mercy of the Family Court System.
Why another ex parte hearing? My X has been taking the phone from my daughter during visits which is against the court order. I have picked the girls up several times and they were visibly shaken only to have him hand me their phone from the front seat of his car. He tells then that using the phone is illegal to use while he is driving. I was picking my daughters up from school this past week and another mother mentioned something that she overheard my daughters talking about at a play date. My oldest daughter said, “My dad is mean. Last week, he was pretending to be a scary bear and (my sister) was crying”.
I asked the girls about the incident after school and they verified the story. While they were driving, he got a mean look on his face and kept swiping his hand back at them pretending to be a scary bear (while driving a moving vehichle, mind you). He wouldn’t stop even thought they begged him over and over again to quit. This resulted in my youngest daughter crying hysterically. During this episode he had their phone again and they were unable to call me for help.
The court order states that the phone is to be fully charged and in their possession at all times. He admitted to the girls’ attorney that he takes the phone from them. He put it in writing last week (email to me) that the girls were no longer permitted to carry the phone with them. He said that they could use his phone if they needed to call me and cited the GPS feature as the reason why they aren’t allowed to carry the phone. Last I checked, he wasn’t allowed to override a Judge’s orders but in the mind of a Narcissist, he does carry that power.
After receiving his email on Thursday night in which he decided to override a court order, I stayed up late preparing my ex parte paperwork and filed everything on Friday afternoon. Based on the above issues and a slew of others (which I will write about after the hearing), I am asking for supervised visits to be reinstated.
I could use a mountain of prayers, positive thoughts and pixy dust. Thank God the first day of Fall was this past weekend because I am putting on my favorite, “I mean business boots” and I am going to do everything in my power to protect my daughters.
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