One Mom’s Battle: The Little Seed that Could

One Mom’s Battle: The Little Seed that Could

sproutby Tina Swithin

I just facilitated my last board meeting as President of One Mom’s Battle (OMB). I don’t think that’s quite sunk in yet! My oldest daughter cried when I made the announcement in September that I was stepping down. One Mom’s Battle has been such a huge part of her life for over five years —half her life. “You ARE One Mom’s Battle!” she cried, “You can’t quit!”

While I understand her feelings, OMB is so much bigger than me. OMB is your story, your sister’s story, your daughter’s story, your nephew’s story and your neighbor’s story. Narcissistic Personality Disorder affects all of us – as a community and as a society. It is so prevalent that I feel sad and frustrated when the term is overused and muddied….like when I come across a person who believes that a narcissist’s worst trait is their fondness of “selfies.” There is obviously still a lot of work to be done.

Despite the reality that I am no longer driving the bus, my mission hasn’t changed. I will always be a part of OMB regardless of my title. The reality is, I don’t like being a “leader” – but I will continue to devote my life to increasing awareness of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and its impact on child custody battles. I still remember when I wrote my first blog post and received my first Facebook “like” – never imagining where that little blog would take me. Now, the OMB Facebook page has almost 30,000 likes and we will never know how many we truly reach who can’t publicly participate on the page for privacy reasons. This grassroots story started from a tiny little seed that I planted but YOU helped to turn OMB into the movement that it is today. I thank you for that. Now, that little sprout will continue to grow under the care and dedication of a new team.

The amazing Rebecca Davis-Merritt will take the steering wheel and will be serving as our President. Jennifer will come on board as our new Vice President and Michele, our dedicated and heart-driven, Executive Director will continue in her role. I know in my heart that these three ladies are equipped to take this movement to the next level and I look forward to sitting in the backseat (I promise not to be an annoying backseat driver!) In the words of Margaret Mead, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

What’s next for me? I am going to continue my coaching practice and keep writing…I can’t even remember when I last submitted a piece to the Huffington Post! I am re-writing my first book, Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle to share additional details that I couldn’t discuss during my battle and to inspire people with my happy ending. I plan to focus on my local One Mom’s Battle group (San Luis Obispo and Santa Barbara Counties) and continue to educate the family court system in my area. I hope to add more retreats to my calendar because I am humbled watching healing and transformations take place right before my eyes. It’s one of the most powerful things I’ve ever been a part of. So, my goal remains the same — to touch people through my writing but to become more hands on in the trenches.

Please join me in welcoming our new leaders —  with love, Tina


One Mom’s Battle is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization. Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children. Please consider a donation to help with our efforts.

History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2011, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother (Tina Swithin) navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth with chapters all over the world. In 2014, One Mom’s Battle achieved non-profit status which will allow the group to take their mission to the next level.

Divorcing a Narcissist: Tina Swithin’s books are available online at Amazon or Barnes & Noble.

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