by Tina Swithin
This past week, I received a Facebook notification reminding me that One Mom’s Battle (OMB) was five years old. I had to really let that one sink in. On one hand, it seems like just yesterday that I leaned over to Glenn and said, “Pssst….I think I’m going to start a blog…” On the other hand, it feels like it has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember.
- Five years ago, I was placing my daughters in a car for a visitation with their biological father and praying that they returned safely to me at the end of the weekend. They are now safe and we have peace.
- Five years ago, I was convinced that my daughters would end up “broken” by the battle they were thrust into. Today, they are thriving and “broken” is not even in my vocabulary while describing my daughters. They are filled with empathy and they are mini leaders and warriors. I am so proud of the human beings they have become.
- Five years ago, I went from feeling so alone to (now) feeling supported beyond my wildest dreams.
- Five years ago, I clung to my best friends, ‘hope’ and ‘faith,’ and often prayed that they would never abandon me. Through the ups and the downs, they never left my side and our friendship is stronger than ever.
- Five years ago, the light bulbs in my head were switched to ‘bright’ and I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt the reality of who I was up against in court. I stopped believing that he would change and I accepted reality. I educated myself and I became empowered.
Two years ago, I turned OMB into a non-profit organization and last year, we became a 501(c)3 non-profit with hopes and dreams of educating Family Court professionals on Cluster B personality disorders. We kicked off our first fundraiser: mailing educational packets to Family Court professionals who are tasked with deciding what is best for our children – attorneys, judges, GAL’s, psychologists, mediators and evaluators. This program is still alive and well but there is so much more that needs to be done.
I have spent the past few months doing a lot of soul searching – sometimes, having the rug pulled out from under you forces you to take inventory of your life and allows you to re-focus. Part of that contemplation involves my role at OMB. I intended to start a blog but I never intended for it to become a worldwide movement and a lifeline for so many. I intended to share my story but I never intended to become a part of your story. I love the quote, “We plan, God laughs.” I planned to write a blog and He had bigger plans…for that, I am grateful.
With that said, I have made the decision to step down from my role as President of One Mom’s Battle at the end of this year. Over the next few months, I will be passing the torch to an individual who is much more qualified to take OMB to the next level. The reality is, I never intended for my life to go in this direction but I believe that I have created a stable foundation with the help of an amazing team. I will always be a volunteer at OMB – always. It was my mission and I am so proud of everything we’ve accomplished over the past five years – I believe that a good leader knows when to step down and for me, that time is here. Arriving at this decision was painstaking but now, I feel at peace and I know it is the right decision for my family and for OMB. Stay tuned in the coming months as we vote in the new board for the 2017/2018 terms.
What’s next for me? I am going to continue to focus on my family and my coaching business. I may even have a few more books up my sleeve. My daughters are approaching 10 and 12-years old and I know my window of time with them is going to fly by – I want to cherish every moment I have before they are completely consumed with sports, academics, friends and all that goes along with the teenage years!
Happy Anniversary to One Mom’s Battle — I look forward to seeing what the next five years will hold!
One Mom’s Battle is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization. Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children. Please consider a donation to help with our efforts.
History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2011, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother (Tina Swithin) navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth with over 100-chapters in five different countries. In 2014, One Mom’s Battle achieved non-profit status which will allow the group to take their mission to the next level.
Tina Swithin offers annual retreats, coaching services and more at www.tinaswithin.com