Who Who, Who Who
I used to like the Who’s live version of the song with the dark and mysterious lyrics. I listened to the part with the expletive over and over again with the volume pegged just to annoy anyone who wasn’t an angst filled teenage boy. That was my truth. I was a pain in the ass.
Today, I am different. However, I am still my truth. Seems simple enough. However, becoming a party to a contentious divorce proceeding with anyone capable of wholesale fabrications will have you defending, possibly even questioning that truth.
I’m not new to having my truth challenged.
Over the summer, I walked up to a loud party of people I had never met before. It was a public campground at 1:23 AM and I am a Park Ranger. It was my job. Before I opened my mouth, someone called me a racist. In that moment I held to the oath I took to: “Maintain courageous calm in the face of danger, scorn, or ridicule.” I also held to my truth. I am not a racist. I stuck to the issue, followed protocol, and, eventually, reached resolution. Imagine however, that I took it personally, that I got sucked in and sidetracked. That I started arguing, or worse, got angry at the accusation. The farther down that road you go, the more credibility you loose, the longer the party rages…
During Tina’s battle, truth challenges and distortions have been constant. I was tempted to attach a copy of the court declaration I submitted in response to one of those challenges. However, suffice to say that we are not running a brothel, I have not profited from child trafficking, and I am not a partner in a Maui mansion (yet).
While it has been annoying to be in question, the hard part hasn’t been about me. The hard part has been Tina’s fight for truth. Knowing what her truths are and how fictional and distorted the challenges have been. Since this site chronicles those battles, I guess my advice here today would be simple; remain calm, don’t get sucked in or sidetracked, don’t let your emotions (anger) damage your credibility. But most of all, know your truth.
My truth, today, is that I put on a Smokey hat and mimic recorded owl calls for our nighttime nature hikes. I am no longer a pain in the ass. Now, I just ruffle feathers.
Whoo Whoo – Whoo Whoo…
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