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As I reported on my Facebook page a while back, Seth and Sharon (aka Gazelle #3) called off their engagement over Valentine’s Day dinner. Their engagement took place mid-January so it was very short lived- about one month in duration.
Yesterday, Glenn and I picked up the girls from a daytime visit with Seth. I looked over at Seth’s car as we pulled into the parking space and there sitting in the front seat was Wendy (aka Gazelle #2). “She’s baaaaaaaaaaaack” and she was sitting in close proximity to the Cheetah. Here I had been breathing a sigh of relief that all three gazelles had escaped.
Piper and Sarah are obviously as confused as the rest of us but sadly, even more so because Piper proceeded to tell us that she found it “weird” that Seth was texting Sharon (Gazelle #3) while Wendy was in the pool with Sarah. She was sitting next to him and even at her age, she thought it was strange. The girls had originally met Wendy in December and then were introduced to Sharon via his engagement photos online. Seth has recently told Piper and Sarah that he has “lots” of girlfriends but it seems like Wendy is currently vying to be lead gazelle at this point in the game.
As I ponder the sheer insanity that my poor daughters are being exposed to, three things stay with me:
1. The lyrics from John Mayer’s “Daughters” song which came out around the time I was pregnant with Piper. It was one of those songs that made me tear up during pregnancy because I had high hopes that Seth would be the father that she deserved. During my divorce, that song made me cry for entirely different reasons because I was facing the grim reality of who Seth really was.
2. In an odd and bizarre way, I want to send Gazelle #2 a thank you card for coming back onto the savannah. I worry less about Seth’s daytime visits when she is here and I know that besides texting his ex-fiance, Sharon, he is on his best behavior when Wendy is present. That means that there is less opportunity for him to inflict damage on our daughters.
3. Sheer gratitude that Seth’s time with the girls is as limited as it is. I can’t even imagine what they would be exposed to if custody was shared.
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