Bringing Change to the Family Court System

Bringing Change to the Family Court System

I just looked down and realized that I look like a bag lady. I was up too late preparing court documents and up early again trying to finish them.  Then you fit in my responsibilities as a mom and my duties to my job: I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed today.  My hair didn’t get brushed- I opted for the “clip back” look…my sweatpants and a few pats of make-up to conceal the dark circles under my eyes and here I am.

How many late nights have I spent typing up declarations, osc’s and other court paperwork?  Too many to count.  Last night, I was up until almost midnight and today, I am exhausted.  I am in the midst of preparing an ex parte to stop the next visitation.  I feel like a broken record, “it shouldn’t be THIS difficult to protect my daughters”.

What is different about this ex parte hearing?  I have brave people who have come forward and offered to submit testimony in support of my case– people who know my X or people who witnessed the incident last weekend.  Now I have strong voices who want to help me protect my daughters.  In the past, I was constantly met with the same answer, “I will tell you everything you want to know but I don’t want to be involved”.  Now, that seems to be changing.  I am relieved and incredibly thankful to the brave souls who are helping us.

My new mission: to bring change to the Family Court System.  You can help me by signing a petition.  I also plan to create a letter which you can send to your local representatives– stay tuned for that.  One voice can’t accomplish a lot but a lot of voices together can.

Our Family Court System has lost sight of their primary goal: to protect our children. The courts are too focused on being quick and fair with 50/50 custody splits instead of focusing on what is best for the children.  Our Family Court System needs to start doing what it was designed to do: act in the best interest of our children. This isn’t about Mothers’ Rights or Fathers’ Rights- it is about the rights of our children to live in a safe, healthy and nurturing environment.



6 Responses

  1. Thank you for helping me to spread the words– I am also researching larger organizations who are working towards the same goal. If we can unite forces, there is power in numbers <3

  2. You are amazing Tina ~ stay strong and keep moving forward just like you are!

    I will be watching for that letter you mentioned to send to my local representatives!

    In my case, the judge basically invented terrible unsupported things about me in his findings, including PAS, so that he could award joint legal custody. It is an outrage and such an injustice. I cannot afford to go through the appeals process. I have to live with it for now and wait, again, for my X to do something extremely abusive before anything can be done. The courts need to look at emotional abuse, not just physical abuse. The courts and judges need to learn about personality disorders, such as Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and the severe damage it does to children. Physical wounds heal, emotional ones can last forever.