Our stories are similar — a horrible divorce with a selfish, twisted ex-husband and a court system that finally saw through him. Her story gave me hope and also made me sad.
It gave me hope that my own “monster” would finally fade off into the distance and stop harming my daughters. I am coming to terms that “he is who he is”. This isn’t just divorce craziness. This is his craziness. This is a man who is so miserable and selfish on the inside that he can never and will never put his daughters first. That is our reality- mine and the girls’.
It made me sad because the author is still dealing with the ramifications of her monster years later. Her daughters are in their 20’s and are still affected by this selfish man and his actions. He didn’t change. He found a new family and a new life where he could carry on the facade that he is a good person. They see through him yet there is still pain.
I want to believe that I can enrich my daughters’ lives so much that they don’t feel this pain as adults. That is a big weight to carry.
I am still searching for that bubble to place them in for protection.