Narcissism and Co-Parenting: Educating Yourself

Narcissism and Co-Parenting: Educating Yourself

I’ve come to discover that the whole “knowledge is power” thing holds a great deal of truth.

In the past year, I have learned so much about my own situation by taking the time to educate myself on narcissism, divorcing a narcissist and co-parenting with a narcissist .  Learning about the situation and hearing stories from others has helped tremendously– it helps me to move towards acceptance which I hope will be healing.

In an effort to help those who are co-parenting with a narcissist, I plan to share articles which provide insight, education or tips as I come across them:

One Response

  1. Hi Tina,

    I’ve been digesting your blog for a little while here at my desk, thinking about the many parallels in your life to my wife’s and mine. She was married to a full-on narcissist, I to a sociopath (who lives like a narcissist), and between us we get to compare behaviors and support each other as we fight to minimize the damage they do to our respective children, six between the two of us.

    After all this reading, I’d like to step into risky territory to suggest that you’re being generous by calling your X a narcissist. His behavior sounds much closer to that of a sociopath (DSM definition) with narcissistic behaviors. Borderline doesn’t quite do it, as they need to be capable of feelings, and your X does not seem to have the capacity. On my own sanity-blog, I reviewed a book I found extremely helpful in understanding what it is I experience with my X. Here’s the link: http://sociopaths.wordpress.com/2010/01/04/the-sociopath-next-door-or-in-the-next-room/.

    Your recent setbacks in the courts are heartbreaking. Overall, your experience still sounds better than mine here in Sacramento County Family Court, where the protection of sociopaths seems to be their only reason to exist. My 21-year-old is doing great (I got him OUT of Sac and into school in NYC where contact with his mom is minimal, and he’s thriving), but my daughter is not doing so well, as my X got full custody of her when my daughter decided she didn’t want to go to school at age 14. She burned her mother’s house down a few weeks ago. I have no contact with her, and that is very difficult for me.

    If you’re ever in need of like-experience pen pal(s), my wife and I are here. I don’t know about you, but we found that our friends who have not experienced life at the hands of a sociopath/narcissist just never quite get it, you know? Please free to get in touch. Otherwise, I’ll checking in from time to time to see how you’re doing.

    Be well,

    -Bill