I had three items on the agenda:
1. Change our pick-up/drop-off location. It’s not fun to drive one-hour round trip when the other party doesn’t feel that showing up for visitation is a great priority. I asked for the location be moved to a coffee shop less than five minutes from our home.
2. I asked that he is ordered to notify us if he plans to show up for visitation. I would rather not subject the girls to disappointment and waiting at a coffee shop if he doesn’t plan to arrive.
Verdict: The judge ordered him to notify us 24-hours in advance if he plans to attend his scheduled visitation.
3. T-Rex. I spoke to the attorney who was appointed to represent our daughters and he agreed that this is harmful and must stop. At today’s hearing, the attorney passed out the emails in which “He” admitted to calling me this name in front of the children.
Verdict: The judge agreed that it needs to stop. The attorney agreed that it needs to stop. I agree that it needs to stop. The judge then went on to voice his concern by saying, “Nothing that I order seems to matter. I’ve already set this order into place. The orders are not followed and on top of that, ‘Mr. P’ sits in my courtroom and lies to me (referencing the last court date and string of lies)”.
We all agree that it’s harmful. We all agree that it should stop however, the judge doesn’t even have faith that “he” will abide by orders. What’s the point in more orders when the initial ones aren’t followed?
What I learned today:
Have patience. The truth will eventually prevail. It took 2.5 years but the courts (Judge and attorney) now see through him. There were times when I felt like giving up– when the odds seemed to be stacked against me. I did what I do best- forward march. The truth is clear to everyone involved. The Family Court System does want what’s best for children but it takes a while to sift through the “muck” and come to the truth.
What else I learned today:
“He” announced that he has once again been fired from a job. I learned that I have one person in the world that I can count on to financially provide for my daughters– myself.