He didn’t show up for today’s visit…once again.
In the past, I tried to shelter the girls from reality. I’ve come to realize that protecting them in this case means lying to them. It’s a 30-minute drive to our meeting location so there is usually ample time for conversing. My normal mode of operation is to think of a “back-up plan” in case he doesn’t show up. I usually verbalize a plan- “if Daddy comes today- fabulous! If he doesn’t come then we will do X, Y and Z”.
“X Y and Z” usually involve some fun activity or treat. Something…anything to take their minds off the fact that their father let them down. Again.
“X, Y and Z” are great except it isn’t reality. In an effort to protect them, I am doing them a disservice. I don’t know what the right answer is and I am always open to suggestions. I am letting my heart guide me and taking advice from people who have my daughters’ best interests at heart. I am thankful for those people.
The other truth is, that in the past two months, there have been a total of six scheduled visits. Out of those six visits, there have been four visits that “he” was a complete “no-show”. One visit where he was 45 minutes late and one visit where he was on time. Not good odds in Vegas and not good odds when you are betting on the hearts of two little girls.