December 2009-February 2010- The court order stated that he was supposed to notify me of where my daughters would be staying during their weekend visitations. As with all orders, he was above the order and the court. He refused to give me a valid address despite my weekly pleas.
Originally, he provided me with an address in a gated community which he knew I couldn’t access. A Google Map Search showed that the address was actually an empty, dirt lot. To further verify this- I drove to the address with a friend who had access to the gated community. It was a fake address.
When confronted, he gave another address near the first. With the help of a local realtor, I was able to prove that this was also a false address.
A third address also proved to be false. Over the phone, he laughed at me. Taking pleasure in my pain- once again.
For three months, I lived in fear each and every visit. Not knowing where my daughters were staying or whom they were staying with. My daughters constantly mentioned that another male lived at the house yet I had no idea who this person was. I lived in fear wondering if he was going to return them at the end of the weekend. The constant worry, stress and anxiety literally ate at me like a cancer.
When lightly reprimanded by the court in February of 2010– he finally provided a correct address. This three month period was just the beginning of a 1.5 year nightmare of constantly wondering and worrying about where my children were being kept. Constant worry.
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