Finding Strength

Finding Strength

January 2009-  I ended up at a local church’s ribbon cutting ceremony as an Ambassador for the local Chamber of Commerce.  I wasn’t raised in a church.  We went as a family when I was very young but I barely remember the experience.  I attended the ribbon cutting ceremony and toured this amazing new church that had just been built.  It was beautiful– the scenic views from the mountaintop were breathtaking.  The people were kind but more importantly– they were down to Earth.  The pastor looked like the typical surfer down the street.  The childcare facility was fabulous.  I left that day thinking, “It seems great but I don’t go to church“.

A few days later I had a dream– it was a Saturday night.  In my dream, people were stopping me to tell me that Ben D. and Ryan D. were both trying to contact me.  These individuals were people that I went to high school with 20 years prior.  In my dream, I remember being very confused as to why Ben and Ryan needed to speak to me.  I woke up and realized that Ben and Ryan both had one thing in common- they were both heavily involved in church.  I only knew this because of Facebook.  Ben was a Pastor in Texas and Ryan was a musician and Worship Leader at a local church.

I awoke from the dream and searched for the service times for the church that I had visited the week before.  Something was pulling me to go to church– so I did.  I walked into the service and there was music playing.  On the screen were the words, “Written by Ryan Delmore“.  In my dream, Ryan was trying to contact me.  Ryan didn’t go to this particular church but they started and ended the service with his song.  It was surreal and I felt like it was a sign.

December 2011-Next month will be my third year at this fabulous church and it has given me strength when I needed it most.  It has given me a sense of community and it has been my lifeline on many occasions.  It has given me strength more times than I can count.

That dream changed my life.


Divorcing a Narcissist: Tina Swithin’s books are available online at Amazon or Barnes & Noble.

One Mom’s Battle is a 501(c)3 non-profit organization. Our mission at One Mom’s Battle is to increase awareness of Cluster B personality disorders (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder) and their impact upon shared parenting and the Family Court System which includes Judges, CPS workers, Guardian ad Litems (GAL), Parenting Coordinators (PC), therapists and attorneys. Education on Cluster B disorders will allow these professionals to truly act in the best interest of the children. Please consider a donation to help with our efforts.

History of One Mom’s Battle: In 2011, One Mom’s Battle began with one mother (Tina Swithin) navigating the choppy waters of a high-conflict divorce in the Family Court System. Since then, it has turned into a grassroots movement reaching the far corners of the Earth with over 100-chapters in five different countries. In 2014, One Mom’s Battle achieved non-profit status which will allow the group to take their mission to the next level.

Tina Swithin offers annual retreats, coaching services and more at 

Comments are closed.