I read the article in today’s Huffington Post titled, “Barry Steenkamp, Father of Oscar Pistorius’ Girlfriend Speaks Out” and shook my head as I read a quote from Mike Steenkamp, uncle of Reeva Steenkamp which said,
“Mike Steenkamp, Reeva’s uncle, told The Associated Press that the family of the double-amputee athlete initially did not send condolences or try to contact the bereaved parents, but had since sought to reach out in what he described as a poorly timed way. After Pistorius was released on bail in what amounted to a victory for the defense, Arnold Pistorius said the athlete’s family was relieved but also in mourning “with the family” of Reeva Steenkamp.”
A victory. That was very well stated because to a narcissistic sociopath, a victory (no matter how small) is a win. That is all that matters to Oscar Pistorius and his camp of enablers and supporters.
Reeve’s father, Barry Steenkamp was quoted in the article as saying, “It doesn’t matter how much money he has and how good his legal team is, he will have to live with his conscience if he allows his legal team to lie for him,” Barry Steenkamp, Reeva’s father, told Beeld . “But if he is telling the truth, then perhaps I can forgive him one day,” the father said. “If it didn’t happen the way he said it did, he must suffer, and he will suffer … only he knows.”
The sad reality that the Steenkamp’s will come to learn is that Oscar Pistorius will not have to live with his conscious if he is a narcissistic sociopath, because he would lack a conscious. If he is in fact a narcissistic sociopath and if he walks away from this a free man– it will be nothing but a “win” and a “victory” to him. Those of us who know about narcissists, sociopaths and other personality disorders know the sad reality of this situation. Somehow, this sick man and his skilled legal team will probably be able to convince a jury that he believed an intruder entered his gated community, broke into his palace and then walked past his bed to use the potty in the bathroom of his master suite.
I hope that the media, the world and the courts begin to wake up before we loose more people like Reeva Steenkamp.
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