Is Lance Armstrong a Narcissist?

Is Lance Armstrong a Narcissist?

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I could end this blog with that one little word, “YES.”

There is a great deal of irony in the latest news on Lance Armstrong. You see, the name “Lance Armstrong” was a huge part of my marriage. This man was Seth’s hero…his God.  When the Tour de France was broadcast on television, our lives came to a halt.  Seth lived on the couch with a beer in hand and was probably wearing spandex shorts  to form some type of bizarre brotherly kinship with Lance.  Our life literally stopped to watch this cycling God.

I just watched portions of Oprah’s interview and it made me feel ill.  I had promised myself that I would not provide Lance Armstrong with anymore attention through my blog but I regress.  The world needs to know that they just watched Narcissistic Personality Disorder in action.

Some of the things that he said when questioned by Oprah:

Did it feel wrong- cheating? “No.  Scary.”  (he admitted that it was scary)

Did you feel bad about it. “No. Even scarier.”

Did you feel that you were cheating? “No. The scariest.”

Zero remorse = Narcissism.

He played the victim card yet he was the bully all along = Narcissism.

He said that he was flawed. I agree = Narcissism.

He wanted to control the outcome at all costs:  to win.  That describes my custody battle.

He is currently experiencing every narcissist’s worst nightmare: the spotlight is shining on him and exposing the real Lance Armstrong. I purchased one of those damn yellow bracelets and if I could find it then I would probably ask for a refund.  This man isn’t a hero by any stretch of the imagination.  He is a bully, a liar, an evil man and a cheater.  He is a narcissist.

My friend Paula is a contributor to the Washington Times and asked the question that Oprah missed,  “Have you changed?”  To read more of Paula’s article titled, “Lance Armstrong’s pending “Jailhouse” confession: Do We Care?”, click here.

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20 Responses

  1. wow I just watch this video yesterday too and it gave me chills. Its the utter lack of any shame, he still feels justified and expects everyone to ignore what he has done just because it suits him. Then I read your post, I was thinking the same thing. His reference to his Mother was also telling. In his world there is one rule for him feeling himself above everyone else.

  2. You are so right! I am so glad I just found your site as a result of a google search, after recognizing so much in Armstrong’s language last night that reminded me of my ex. Hope to catch up with your story now and participate in your online community.

  3. Sheryl Crow made slight reference to that when they broke up. She wouldn’t out him though, but we all can understand why.

  4. I totally agree with you. I also noticed the lies. He was saying “no” and nodding yes, or saying yes and shaking his head “no”. He did not seem to have any remorse and ONLY came clean when there was no other choice, and if I were a betting woman I would say that he would have something to gain by coming clean or he never would have done it. Dig deep enough and you will find the pay off for him.

  5. And that “scary” crap? Please. That was his attempt at being contrite, and I say attempt because we all know narcissits have to mimic emotions like empathy and remorse because they don’t actuallye experience them.

  6. Have you found an online community where people share similar problems? Would love to find one and just feel a sense of “I’m not alone” and maybe gain some knowledge that might be needed. Am “trying” to get a divorce and have been for the past 2 1/2 years and it would be nice to see if anyone else has gone through what I am now and may have advise.

  7. There are several – Lisa E Scott is a great one. Our FB page is pubic– but there is great support!

  8. I just caught for the first time the Lance Armstrong interview,as I watched I became more and more uneasy.
    I have been in the process of understanding and leaving my narcisstic partner for some time now, and although you educate yourself and research and everything points to the same thing, a small area of doubt still remains. Have I got this right ?
    Could this whole set of characteristics be shared by one kind of damaged personality ? Is this really what has caused the mayhem in my life…
    I watched the part where he talked about his son and appeared tearful, but the expression didn’t match the words or the tears,and I knew this was what I had seen many times.
    A Narcissist who can be so eloquent and uses words to appear
    feeling , but it was an act, and the screen behind the words
    was blank and cold.
    I knew what I was seeing, and I googled ‘Lance Armstrong Narcissist’ And I found this post and many others saying a similar thing.
    So Thanks so much for this article ! what it has done for me is to say ‘You knew it’ You saw this terrible disorder in someone else and you spotted it. There is a set of horrendous behaviours that make up this kind of person and what I have seen in my home and my life is the same as what others see in Lance Armstrong.
    Another interesting point for me is my partner was also in his younger years a world class sportsman, maybe some clues here as to how it occurs in some people….
    I wish all the best to everyone who is suffering similar confusion and pain, and I know that gradually we will get the ticket and have the strength to move on. Thanks again, Kate.

  9. http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/more/news/20130117/mike-anderson-lance-armstrong/

    This is a good read on what narcissists do to people. This is what Lance did to his bike mechanic.And the way he deals with the emotional fallout.
    It is devastating. One thing is at least it was not a blood relative.Being a daughter ,sister and ex wife if narcissists.
    It has a much deeper devastation. I watched Lance interview and just felt so sorry for his children.
    I watched a video of Lance in a triathlon and he did not come in first. His daughter was waiting for him at the finish line with a little gift he ran right past her on purpose and she ran after him calling dad. He just ignored her. I will find it and bring it here.DEVASTATING,soul destroying

  10. This s how a narcissistic parent rolls.

    http://hollywoodlife.com/2012/04/03/lance-armstrong-daughter-finish-line-video/
    “As Lance ends his race, his 10-year-old tries to give him a celebratory medal, but he totally ignores her! An expert tells HollywoodLife.com how Lance’s boorish behavior can hurt his daughter!

    Lance Armstrong is used to winning — he’s a seven-time Tour de France champion — so he seemed visibly upset when he finished seventh in the Memorial Hermann 70.3 Ironman triathlon. After being passed in the final yards, the exhausted athlete walked right past his own daughter who was trying to give him a medal!

    The video shows one of his 10-year-old twin daughters waiting patiently to hand her dad a medal, but he keeps on walking past her. The girl follows and screams “Dad! Dad!” to get his attention.

    “He is such a competitor to the point of where he is almost socially boorish, and there really is no excuse he is in a different zone emotionally and psychologically after a race,” Dr. Jeff Gardere, Family therapist and contributor to Healthguru.com, tells HollywoodLife.com exclusively. ”I think what parents need to understand, no matter how wrapped up or focused in whatever the activity, that you have to be cognizant and there. You have to keep your mind open and be willing to share a part of that focus.”

    “I think he was just so focused and in-the-zone, and it might have hurt his daughters feelings,” Dr. Gardere continues. “I’m not putting him down or saying he did this on purpose, he was just so damned focused and didn’t realize what was going on with his daughter.”

  11. Yes, you got it! He needed the “part 2″ to fake some emotions and look like he was a normal human being. Sad, really.

  12. I found this community on Facebook that has helped me a lot after being abused by one.. I highly recommend it…>>> “After Narcissistic Abuse – There is Light, Life & Love”

  13. I worked for one and I can see how Armstrong is LIKELY one. He just occupied a special niche, an opportunity granted by a reasonable level of athletic talent. He ran with it, became a public profile, gained attention, which he would have liked, did not know when to quit. His fate his own undoing because of the illness. No fault of his originally, when young, but something caused his failure to mature. Family troubles when young are there, a likely source of trauma.
    In the Oprah interview, his concern re his family was about control, not their pain. This seems wrong by public norms. So too re the lost contracts. He has had a divorce, an early indicator of the way narcissists push people away from them and have lives of ongoing turmoil. So they get used to disruptive living styles, adapting (but staying the same). Bullying mentioned too, one of their efforts to exert power, to manipulate. Cunning, they only admit to what they cannot avoid. This is what he is finally doing as damage control, planned out to find a path to the top again, using Oprah in ways she likely does not understand or see.
    Very difficult to understand by the un-informed but if you read the articles on the web re malignant narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder and if you understand first-hand like I do, how the illness can control and take unbelievable directions and variations of application through the perpetrator, you will know this is a great opportunity for a public demand for greater education and awareness of the intricacies, reasons, methods and abuses of this illness.
    The illness is an open-ended book and most of us need to be brought to the first page. One in 100 people suffer from it and make those suffer around them. This is a lot of people when you know how these people are driven and how they will seek to use others to get ahead. Potentially everyone they meet can be a secondary victim. I was and it was demeaning, confusing, stressful and something you never forget.
    In my experience, I would not have thought such a performance in life was possible by an individual, but now I understand how evil can be hidden and controlled by this mental illness.
    It is an individual’s illness but it blocks out its victims on a population grid like variables or entities following a certain pattern of behavior parameters. These individuals add up as blots in our society, running through our communities like a hidden organism that is hard to discern, identify and treat.
    The standard answer for how to deal with it is that victims of the narcissist should detach, depart or flee as I did. Does this not suggest we need more public education on the confusion,depravity, pervasiveness and unrelenting nature of this problem? No solution, so avoid it! Makes you think, does it not?
    I feel for Armstrong because he is a helpless victim of what life brought to him in some way that altered him early on, gave him his illness, but you can see by his saying that he is happy, there-by confirming his lack of remorse, that he is still in the grip of the illness. Would not a normal man, with normal public values have said, enough is enough and left the scene, quietly and humbly?
    Sadly death is their only release. More troubles ahead for Lance, my fear. Good luck to him, good luck to the rest of us from his compatriots – the other narcissists lurking out there, practicing their craft.