Promoting Awareness: Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Promoting Awareness: Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Tomorrow I will be heading to Los Angeles to see the amazingly beautiful Christie Brinkley perform at the Pantages Theatre.  Growing up in California, I have encountered a few famous people along the way and there was always the usual “star struck” feeling.  The feeling that this person operates on a level that I could never relate to.  You have to admit, there is something mysterious about the stars–they seem untouchable.  I along with many others have this naive impression that the lives of the rich and famous are so easy– they have personal trainers, huge wardrobes and luxury homes.  They could never relate to my world and I could never relate to theirs.

Christie Brinkley’s appeared on the Today Show changed my opinion of celebrities in many ways.  For the first time, I didn’t see a famous person but I saw a person who I could relate to.  She had been victimized in the same ways that I had been victimized.  The square footage of her home and her designer shoes didn’t protect her from a Narcissist.  I sat with tears in my eyes as I watched her being re-victimized by Matt Lauer in the same way I am re-victimized in Starbucks by the person who just doesn’t understand.  I can’t tell you how many times I have heard someone say,  “Why can’t you guys just focus on the children instead of your hatred for each other?”.  It’s difficult enough to have that questions asked in Starbucks but to be put on the spot in front of millions was excruciating to watch.

Last week I had my monthly IVig infusion for Multiple Sclerosis and I was sharing my exciting news about seeing Chicago at the Pantages with my longtime nurse, Holly.  Another patient chimed in about her opinion of Christie Brinkley on the Today Show and was extremely unkind in her portrayal of the situation.  She was another person who just doesn’t get it.  I felt incredibly defensive as she berated Christie for appearing on the Today Show to “discuss her divorce” and I found myself defending her.  “She was NOT going on the show to discuss her divorce nor did she partake in the media circus”, I explained.  “No, but she should keep her private issues private“, she stated firmly.  “Many would say the same thing about my blog”, I went on to explain.  “I think by providing education and support, people aren’t left to suffer in silence”.

The conversation ended but I left furious.  Christie Brinkley broke the silence and has provided public education on this disorder that leaves so many women (and men) suffering in silence.  Not only did she break the silence but she did it with an amazing amount of class and grace.  She set an example for many of us and brought the spotlight onto a subject that greatly affects my children, her children and your children.  She has given me a larger audience in my fight to bring attention to Narcissistic Personality Disorder and eventually, I hope to use that larger voice to bring education where it matters most: The Family Court System.

I am extremely excited about my adventure to Los Angeles tomorrow because of the deep amount of respect and gratitude that I have for this person.  I will share pictures on my Facebook page so “like” me if you haven’t already :)

At the end of the day, we all want the same thing: “I just want peace”- Christie Brinkley, 2012

 

6 Responses

  1. YAY for you! How exciting! I get frustrated trying to explain to someone what it is like to live with an N. I am glad those people don’t understand but wish they would open their minds as well.

  2. How exciting for you! Looking forward to the pictures on FB. I need to look up this interview I keep hearing about!

    Sue

  3. I am very happy for you! Glad you have the opportunity to see her. I have not “liked” you o facebook since I am still concerned about being stalked and scrutinized on the internet, but know I do “like” you! On the other point you mention, I visited my other for Mother’s day and there was a murder-suicide in her town. Father killed mother, then himself and left it for the kids to find. The oldest was 13. I expressed my sadness for the mother saying why did he have to kill her and leave the kids with no parent, so selfish of him. Now, this may or may not have been a narc, but my mom said she didn’t feel bad for her, she heard the mother had been cheating etc. Meanwhile the father was facing prison time for extortion and possibly losing or lost his job. I was just shocked at my mother. I said, “You know, if that was me who was killed and Husband then killed himself (a totally realistic scenario had I stayed), I am sure those same lies would be said about me because that is what he tells everyone. Would you say the same about me if my kids were orphaned? Would you feel good hearing others say that about me?” She felt mine was a different situation… of course, but she doesn’t “know” anything. People judge, even our own loved ones judge others harshly. It is as if we have found a way as a species to separate and compartmentalize others as if they aren’t human. So sad. Education is sorely needed.

  4. Janine– it is so sad. It’s amazing how people can pass judgement without knowing the story. I am guilty of it in the past also. It is about education and it’s a big battle– that is for sure.

  5. Wow…I watched it earlier thanks, how horrible Lauer treated her! I felt so sorry for her, all she wanted to do was talk about was the play and he would not let her. Did he even listen to her? I don’t think so.